“I Cross People Over In My Dreams Just Like You”

Coast to Coast Radio aftershow paranormal comment for Monica Holy, psychic, artist and author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Submitted on 2010/07/11 at 9:49 pm

“Me too!”

I cross people over in my dreams just like you. I have been doing it for years.. I never knew it had a name. I also dream before people die. I am an RN in my day job and I cross people over in my sleep. It comes in spurts. Sometimes I cross people over every night and sometimes a month or two goes by and I don’t cross anyone over .. but then i start all over again.. i told many people i do this and it seemed as if i was the only one ..

I have never heard of anyone doing it. Thank heaven you came on Coast to Coast. I wake up exhausted sometimes because I cross all these people over. I always told my mother I dream of crossing people over who I don’t know- kids,old and young people, people from other countries…

Do you have any suggestions for me to develop my talent? My grandmother was very psychic and would have out of body experience and I would wake up and see her coming over to see us. Then she would confirm I saw her… awesome !!

Thank heaven I am not crazy !!!


Excerpt of painting 'Grey Wolf' by Psychic, artist Monica Holy, author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Hello Bethany,

What a courageous challenge you took on, to be an RN by day, and one by night as well! You are by no means the only one, so many people have responded and written in to say they do it too, and by names such as Dreamwalkers.

I understand you’re feeling of waking up exhausted. People who have not had these experiences may not recognize how emotionally draining it truly is to always be ‘present’ for someone. You do it both day and night, so you’ll need to implement a few intentions so you don’t find yourself in a place of utter exhaustion that leads to ill health both physical and mental.

Set your intention before going to bed that you’ll get all the rest you need. As I mentioned on the Coast to Coast program, I found out I actually had ethereal caregivers that watched over me. Ever since implementing that intention I haven’t had any major issues beyond the normal stress of waking life regime. Also set your intention to have a safe journey.

I love the story of your psychic grandmother astral traveling to you. The fact that you had her to confirm the experience is indeed a gift in itself. So many people have never had a validation of any kind.

Generally, I encourage people to allow the experience, be the observer as much as possible. Allow the images to unfold, and do your best to gather the nuances, the feelings, the flavor of what’s going on. Many times this will yield more answers than trying to hear messages. Our ears tend to work better in the waking reality, and we can expand our other senses to tell us what’s happening in our dream world. Listen to your heart, that tends to be a good compass as well.

As for expanding your talents in Dream Travel, I often recommend the book Toltec Dreaming: Don Juan’s Teachings on the Energy Body who delves into detail of the many levels of dreaming, and how to expand on each one. This may offer you detailed insight into expanding your Gifts.

I don’t think you’re crazy, at least no more than the rest of us who lead this sort of dual life…lol.

Sincerely, bless you for taking on the dual role of caregiver in both waking and dream realities. I can’t even imagine the emotional stress and
challenges that you face.

May all your dream travels be safe and rewarding, and know you are not alone in this 🙂

Namaste, Monica


“My Son Passed Away”

Coast to Coast Radio aftershow paranormal question for Monica Holy, psychic, artist and author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Coast to Coast Radio with host Ian Punnet in a paranormal discussion with psychic, artist Monica Holy, author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Submitted on 2010/07/11 at 6:09 am

“My Son Passed Away”

Hi Monica,

After my son died, I had a reading looking for closure, comfort, answers. She said my long dead dad was there for my son to guide him over. Great!

But how was my dad there at the scene, at the exact time? Are we being watched over by deceased relatives?

I would love to think my son is working behind the scenes for his surviving sister Death of the young sucks. My bro was 28 when he died.


Excerpt of painting 'Grey Wolf' by Psychic, artist Monica Holy, author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Hello William,

Death of the young sucks’ indeed.I believe we are watched over by deceased relatives. My grandmother comes to me infrequently, and it’s always a warm breath of comfort when she does. I cherish those dreams.

Time and the ‘all knowing’ of something can sometimes be challenging for us to wrap our minds around and fully understand. Time on the ‘Other Side’ doesn’t seem to work in quite the same linear fashion as we in the waking reality here perceive it. We tend to see time as a train track, with point A at the start and point B towards the end, or ‘in the future’.

Quantum Mechanics can shed some light and new perspective on this, however it can become more confusing the more you learn…lol.

For example, Sylvia Browne talks about her experience when her father passed, and being Psychic didn’t seem to help her one bit when it came to connecting with her father after he’d passed. When she finally did ‘hear’ from him, what she thought was months, to him had seemed like mere moments.

If you’ve ever experienced a second in time, where you had an overwhelming feeling that you actually ‘got it’…an epiphany if you will, a momentary state of bliss where everything seemed to be connected, make sense, and have order…then you may understand the concept that everything…. everything …is ‘now’. Eckhart Tolle’s books  ‘The Power of Now’ and ‘ A New Earth’ relays this quite nicely.

With this concept of time, now, and connectedness, it offers a possible  explanation of how your father was able to be there for your son to guide him over.

As for your son watching over your daughter, absolutely. We may just not recognize in what ways that might be. We may not be aware of something we don’t put our ‘focus’ on, however that doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist.I can’t imagine the challenges you’ve faced losing your father, brother, and son. My heart goes out to you.

You may choose to check into authors like  Wayne Dyer and  Eckhart Tolle for their perspective on this topic as well.

Thank you for writing in, and I hope this helps,

Sincerely, the Fringe Dweller


“Helping Someone Who Dies Unprepared”

'Ask the Fringe Dweller' Blog Question for Monica Holy author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Submitted on 2010/11/05 at 11:46 am

My mother just died after a long illness but was unprepared for her death.

That night I had an awful nightmare that she was terrified and confused and was in the morgue’s freezer with her body.

How can I help her?

Can you help her, or recommend someone like you who can?

Thank you.

Excerpt of painting 'Grey Wolf' by Psychic, artist Monica Holy, author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Hello There,

First of all, let me say condolences on your Mother’s passing.

My experiences come to me, as in people in distress or lost/traumatized souls find me during my dreams.

I will however, send out intentions and prayers for your Mother. 🙂

Most often, people closest to us will reach us through visitations. You, can help your Mother, by setting intentions each nite before going to sleep. Just setting forth your intention, and sending love, can make a difference. You can do this throughout the day in your thoughts as well.

Seeing your Mother in your dream the way you did could also be a result/influenced by your fears and awareness of her ‘unpreparedness’.

It has been my experience, that no one dies alone. Your Mother would have been in the presence of another ‘Fringe Dweller’, or ‘Dream Walker’ as some are called, Angel, Guardian, Loved one or Light Being of some nature.

If you have another dream with her, do your best not to have any associations of fear, and send only Love. Cherish the Visitation. More often than not, just being in a calm presence/energy/environment is all that’s needed for someone to match that energetic frequency, recognize what has transpired, and be ready to ‘move on’ in a loving and accepting manner.

Your Mother has most likely moved on and ‘returned to Love’, the place we all came from. She has the wonderful opportunity to meet with friends and loved ones also passed, go to school, teach….there is so much available on the ‘Other Side’.

Sylvia Browne and John Edward both have insightful books on Loved Ones’ passing, that may shed further light on the subject.

I hope this was helpful.

My heart goes out to you at this time,

Sincerely, the Fringe Dweller


A Visitation from my Mom’s Ghost

Nicole Chayka is the co-author of the paranormal book 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Grieving is a hard process to negotiate even if you do believe in Reincarnation.  Even if you do believe in Spirit Guides, Visitations, Fringe Dwellers and the After life. Grieving can take a hell of a lot out of you. In my life I’ve said goodbye to all my grandparents, parents, god parents and my oldest childhood friend.  That’s a whole lotta grieving.

I think its natural for people to want to make contact with their loved ones on the Other Side.  We know we’ll be reunited ‘one day’ but meanwhile we’d still like the occasional visit, the check in, just to say ‘hey’,  just to let us know they’re alright.

I was fortunate to have had the relationship I did with my Mother.  We were as contrary as two people could be.  If she said black I’d say white.  If she said she couldn’t, I’d say she could if only she would choose to. We were opposite ends of the same pole. We fought as only a mother and daughter can, but in the end, at the end of the day we knew we loved each other.

I remember once going to visit her and about 3 hours into our weekend turning to her and saying, “You drive me nuts. You will understand if I tell you that I love you like crazy and there isn’t anything I wouldn’t do for you, but I can only handle being around you for about an hour before going stark raving mad!”  Luckily she laughed, and responded that she understood, because she felt exactly the same way.  We had an odd relationship my Mother and I, but I never doubted her love for me or vice verse.

When Mom was diagnosed with multiple Myeloma she was told by her oncologist that this form of cancer was so rare she stood a better chance of winning a lottery than having this disease.  As was Mom’s custom to think negatively she said, “That’s my luck, my lottery.  If it weren’t for bad luck I’d have none at all.”   Of course the movie ‘The Secret’ wasn’t out yet and any talk of ‘creating your reality’ was not a topic I could broach with her. When I tried we fought.  It was MY life lesson to learn to let go.  To let go trying to save her from her negative thinking and just ‘be’ with her as she went through this difficult time in her life.  Letting someone ‘have at’ their negativity is a particularly tough one for me to swallow as I’m a fighter and don’t do victim third Chakra issues.  Playing the victim has always rubbed me the wrong way which is precisely the reason I reincarnated as this woman’s child no doubt (lol).  Nonetheless, I loved her fiercely and it was one of the hardest things I will ever do to have simply been present, and bare witness over the last ten weeks of her life.  Her mind slipped away as the toxins filled her body and the morphine barely kept the pain at bay.  She eventually elapsed into her first tongue as a French Canadian. That is when she would speak at all.

There were moments of lucidity.

One of those precious moments I made sure to ask her to do something for me.  I asked her to promise to pay me a visitation after she passed just to let me know that where ever she was, she was ok.

A promise is not something she would give she said, as she didn’t know what waited for her on the Other Side, and so she didn’t want to promise something she didn’t know if she could deliver on.  She had always been a woman of her word, and since she did not give it lightly she would not do so now.  However, with a little grin and mischief in her eyes she did say that we all knew how stubborn she was, and if there was a way, she would find it.

My Mother passed two days before her birthday on Feb. 19th and fulfilled her non-promise to me on my birthday that same year, April 23rd.

It was somewhere in the wee hours around 3-4am when I woke to stumble from the couch towards my bedroom.  In that half sleep state I was on auto pilot groping for familiar landmarks so that I wouldn’t have to open my eyes when my Mother’s voice  filled both my head and the room.

“Happy Birthday Sweetheart” was all she said.

My eyes jerked open as I felt the essence of her pass through the room and instantly my knees hit the floor, tears falling freely I answered.

“I heard you mom loud and clear. You got through. You found a way. Thank you.”

So if you ask me about the after life, of this I have no doubt.  Thank you Mom, and thank you for my second visit too.

Namaste Nicole


“Once we cross over into the Light, is our Self-identity preserved?”

'Ask the Fringe Dweller' Blog Question for Monica Holy author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Submitted on 2009/12/13 at 10:45 pm

Once we do cross over into the light, are our thought processes, memories and self-identity still preserved?


Fringe Dweller

Excerpt of painting 'Grey Wolf' by Psychic, artist Monica Holy, author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Dear Gary

It’s been my experience working with people who have crossed from life to death, that yes, their thought processes, and memories are preserved. Once people cross over from death into the light, although ‘yes’ that our self identity is preserved, the overall perspective changes. We take the growth from our experiences in this incarnation with us, into the next incarnation.

It’s a known concept that we ‘Write our Spiritual Blueprint’ of the experiences we wish to experience before returning the next time. Sylvia Browne goes into more detail on this in her book  Other Side and Back: A Psychic’s Guide to Our World and Beyond . Our memory of our past lives are not always intact as we reincarnate into the next one, as the purpose is to have a new life experience each time. However, many people do remember instances or have dreams of their past lives.

I myself have a variety of characteristics from past lives that I can directly relate back via past life dreams. There are other  idiosyncrasies I don’t recall, but can only imagine their origin, like scratching my chin as if I had a full grown man’s beard. With each return trip, the potential for our awareness to expand exists, it may just take longer for some people.

Sincerely, The Fringe Dweller


“I thought I was quite Crazy…”

'Ask the Fringe Dweller' Paranormal comments and testimonials for psychic, artist Monica Holy, author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Submitted on 2009/12/01 at 12:41 am

Thanks so much for writing your book Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift . I have been helping souls pass over too, for most of my life. I thought I was quite crazy, until I was helping souls during 9/11, not knowing at the time what had happened, and waking up to turn on the TV to find it was exactly how I had just witnessed it (I am in Australia). The tsunami time as well was something I saw on TV that I had just witnessed. So those times gave me faith that it wasn’t all in my mind!

I saw your book, and I was very excited. My experiences follow yours so very closely. I shall look out for you on my travels, I haven’t seen too many others doing this, but I am asleep here whilst you are awake there! Bless you with a thousand blessings…


Excerpt of painting 'Grey Wolf' by Psychic, artist Monica Holy, author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Hello Julieanne

It’s wonderful to hear from a fellow Fringe Dweller in Australia! That validation we get by seeing our Dreams in the news can be heart wrenching as we realize those  tragedies  really happened. However knowing we aren’t ‘imagining’ things is very important as it helps keep us sane. People who haven’t had these Paranormal, Supernatural, or Spiritual experiences may not understand to what depth we struggle internally to make sense of it all, let alone accept it.

Thank you for your kind words, and I too will keep a lookout  for you on my travels.

Sincerely, The Fringe Dweller


“How do I keep myself centered when hearing Ghosts of loved ones?”

'Ask the Fringe Dweller' Blog Question for Monica Holy author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'

Submitted on 2009/11/20 at 12:29 am

I have conversations with friends who passed, shortly after they died. It takes me days, sometimes weeks, to decipher their message. I find it very draining, because I can hear their voices and feel their vibes constantly for that short period of time. But once I understand the message and pass it around to loved ones, it gives them great relief. So, I know my experiences have a purpose.

I am wondering if I am only hearing ghosts of loved ones because I am afraid of being in contact with ghosts in general. Do you know of anyone who have developed the ability to be in contact with ghosts, beyond the few loved ones, and if so, could you direct me to some mentor or techniques? If not, do you know of any techniques to keep myself centered when I am being contacted by friends who recently died?


Excerpt of painting 'Grey Wolf' by Psychic, artist Monica Holy, author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Hello Martine

I too feel my experiences have a purpose, and although I originally anticipated to expand my gifts to other areas, I found what worked for me best, was what showed up naturally, and so I was content to ‘be’ with that. However, I have noticed, that as my state of heart, mind and awareness change and grow, so do my gifts. That saying ‘The teacher appears when the student is ready’ I find very fitting. Community bookstores, spiritual and new age churches often post contact info for people or groups dealing with paranormal themes who can help. However do your due diligence to make sure they’re authentic. If you feel you are ready to expand your circle of experience, put that intention ‘out to the universe’, and you may be amazed at what comes back. Say it out loud, but with clarity of what exactly  it is you wish to expand. Here’s where you can protect yourself as you set some boundaries around the ‘how’ or ‘when’ you would like to help. I reference some Psychic Protection techniques in the post ‘Am I opening a Door that I’m not ready for?‘.

Be careful what you ask for, you may find yourself surrounded by an entourage of ghosts/spirits that leave you feeling overwhelmed, and impede your daily life. Have you ever seen the wonderful comedy ‘Ghost Town’?  You may find yourself with a ‘take a number ‘ policy! I’ve heard Sylvia Browne ask that she only be shown the positive experiences, as opposed to the traumatic ones. I found John Edward’s book   One Last Time insightful and humorous regarding dialogues with ghosts. Your very fear  ‘of being in contact with ghosts in general’ as you say, may be creating the boundaries of who contacts you. Fearfulness, or trepidation has it’s own frequency of vibration, and many spirits who have just  crossed over may not have the best communication skills either. Patience is required. If the message they are trying to communicate is not clear to you, clarify that you aren’t understanding, and ask them to try something different. If you choose to  ask for spirit guide assistance in your communication with the ghosts who have contacted you, ask to only work ‘with those of the light’.

Also, VERY IMPORTANT, is the following gem I learned from experience. Sometimes, a message that comes through does not make sense, because it’s not for you to understand. The meaning may be exclusive to the person it is intended, they will understand. The message can literally be lost in the attempt to translate. It’s most often the essence of what’s shown at face value. You can speak to the person the message is meant for, explaining that you don’t get the reference, but perhaps it may mean something to them, and then relay what you saw, heard, or felt.

Experience and flying by the seat of my pants has been my biggest teacher, and not necessarily something I recommend, however sometimes we have to go with what we have at our disposal.

Sincerely, The Fringe Dweller.


‘Astral Triage with a Fringe Dweller’

October 2009

Kinetics Magazine-October 2009 featuring psychic, artist, author Monica HolyOctober’s edition of Kintetics Magazine is featuring an article titled ‘Astral Triage with a Fringe Dweller’ by Monica Holy.

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“Does the Soul care if the body is cremated at Death?”

'Ask the Fringe Dweller' Blog Question for Monica Holy author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Submitted on 2009/11/13 at 3:58pm

Your book is a blessing and I have a question..does the soul care if the body is cremated at death?

Thanks Sara

Excerpt of painting 'Grey Wolf' by Psychic, artist Monica Holy, author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Hi Sara,

Thank you for your kind words, I hope you found the book Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift to be helpful.

So far, it has not been my experience that Cremation is an issue when a Soul Crosses Over. Strong  beliefs about something before you  cross over, can affect the frequency you vibrate at, and possibly influence what you envision as you cross over. Someone who is agitated, and feels there’s unfinished business, may feel strongly enough about something to have these emotional vibrations accompany them upon Death.  The power this has over you, comes from the importance you place upon it. One way to view our physical body, is that it’s the ‘package’, or ‘wrapping’ we showed up in. What’s inside, the Soul, has a Higher Awareness we sometimes lose touch with. I work primarily with Lost or distressed Souls, however, I have been blessed to accompany those who upon passing, embrace the knowing, the ‘remembering’ of where they came from, as they return to wholeness, to the Light and a Source that is in complete acceptance, and has  No Judgment.

Sincerely, the Fringe Dweller


When the Gift isn’t.

Nicole Chayka is the co-author of the paranormal book 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'I don’t want to sound like I am bitching, moaning, or otherwise kvetching…but I really need to lay down a foundation of honesty here.   Some people think it would be wild to be Monica, to have the ‘quote-unquote’ gifts she has, and I really want to be open to those toying with the notion to be careful what you wish for.  It’s not all fun and games.

Sure it’s cool to go gallivanting around the universe; to astral travel through time and space. Who wouldn’t like to explore or play with consciousness? It’s especially exciting if you can forget your human structure and allow your imagination to take you where it will.

But then there’s the bad stuff.

The stuff we try not to sensationalize or put a big ol’ strobe light on, nonetheless, it exists.  There are times when she is called upon to be a witness.  She can’t intercede or stop a harrowing murder, all she can do is be there for the person before, during and after they cross over, and all without condemning or even judging the murderer.

Could you do that?

I couldn’t.  I’m simply not evolved enough for that.  Sometimes she experiences the death along with them-the physical sensations, the thoughts in their heads, their life long memories.

Could you do that?

I couldn’t. I’m simply not strong enough for that. Sometimes she watches children die, and she has to accept that it was meant to go down this way, for a greater good that only our higher selves knows or understands.

Could you do that?

I couldn’t, and keep my sanity anyway.  Monica admitted that she tinkered on the brink before coming to terms with what was required of her so I say this with the utmost of compassion. Be careful what you wish for.  It’s not all a joy ride out there in the slipstream of consciousness.

But then again, sometimes, it is.

Namaste, Nicole


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