Submitted on 2009/09/29 at 10:02 am
I heard you on Darkness Radio last Sunday night. It was very encouraging since I’m a natural medium and I feel so isolated because I live deep in the heart of the bible belt.
My question is: if no one dies alone, why do some spirits chose to stay here?
I have helped a few cross over, but not in the dream state. I keep wondering WHY. I hear that they have unfinished business, and I have felt that emotional state coming from some stuck spirits myself. I sometimes think that the power of emotion is greater than the power of thought and that perhaps, some of them are in some way mentally ill and unable to logically understand what’s happening.
What do you think?
Veronica Smith, Tyler, Texas
No one dies alone.
One of the hardest lessons I’ve had to learn was to let go of what capacity I show up to ‘help’ a person or spirit. We all have different gifts, and we all help each other in the ways we can. There are times I’m there to assist people during a time of crisis, just before they actually pass …and then immediately upon passing, my part is done…because they continue on, either on their own because they’re ready, or with the help of another ‘Fringe Dweller’ who’s waiting on the other side. Sometimes I’m the one on the other side, and I’ve connected with a spirit who’s vibrating at a state of confusion, chaos, and I’m there to love unconditionally without judgment, and calm them down with understanding and comfort.
Some Spirits simply choose to stay. Death is a unique experience. Their emotional state at the time of their passing vibrates at a particular frequency. If that doesn’t change, they aren’t ready to go to the light and there can be a variety of reasons.
Religious upbringing and certain beliefs can influence someone’s emotions.
Some are ready to Cross Over right away, while others need to be led to the Light. Some go into a state of anger or regret that they’re not ready to let go of. There are Lost Souls who find me, because they are still in a state of confusion and they don’t know they’ve passed. I’ve had visits from Spirits, who try to communicate the best way they can, sometimes in a clumsy manner because they’re still trying to communicate the way they would if they were still alive…so it takes them a while to realize that people aren’t responding the way they used to. However once they are acknowledged, they’re ready to cross over.
Some spirits who have passed as the result of an accident, or tragedy, are not ready to go to the light without finding the family members who passed at the same time. They’ll come to me and ask for help. As soon as I find and reunite them, they cross over together.
Sometimes spirits are in such an emotional state, they don’t initially recognize a Fringe Dweller is there to offer help.
Based on your comments regarding the power of emotions, I’d like to suggest Eckhart Tolle’s latest book A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose …I think you’ll find it helpful, as he speaks in depth how emotions function and influence.
Sincerely , The Fringe Dweller