“As an Empath, how do I distinguish my Emotions from those around me?”

'Ask the Fringe Dweller' Blog Question for Monica Holy author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Submitted on 2010/04/19 at 12:59 pm

Hello,

I know this question may be more directed to Nicole but here is goes….

When Nicole talked about Empaths and how they feel everything… I am like that sometimes, picking up on whoever is around me, their emotions.

How do I feel my own when other people are around?  I can give opinions when other people are present but they are generally logic and common sense. When other people are unhappy, so am I. Sometimes I can shake it and sometimes I cannot.

Any suggestions??

Thank You!!! Cheers :)


Nicole Chayka is the co-author of the paranormal book 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Hey Cassandra,

Hope you don’t mind Monica passing this one on to me but I can get a little like the character Horshack on Welcome Back Kotter, when its one I know the answer to (grin).

Ground yourself.  Learn to run your own essence energy through the 7 major Chakras in your body.  It can be a longer Meditation if you wish, or as short as imagining your grounding being a root of a tree leaving your body through your feet and driving into the earth below going deeper and deeper utterly connecting you to mother earth.  Then imagine energy from the sun being love from your Creator (however you identify with that) and see it as a golden river of honey that moves from the top of your head cascading and winding itself throughout your body eventually exiting out your feet.  Think of how warm the sun feels on your skin when doing this.  Imagine drinking Creator’s energy (Love) directly in, and while doing so summon any part of your own emotional body back to you that may have been ‘attached’ with or to someone else.  Pretend that there is a shimmering energetic egg shape around your body that embodies the highest frequency…Love.  Mentally say, “All that is not mine, be gone.”  Only love may enter and only love may exit.

The more you ‘run’ your own Essence Energy the more you will become aware of what is yours, and what is not yours.  You can choose when to merge your essence energy with another in this way instead of  ‘going along for the ride’ all the time.  This would be a good time to pick up a book on ‘Chakras’ and try some of the meditations to see what works for you.

Namaste, Nicole

 


Levitation, Bi-Location, and Ascension

Nicole Chayka is the co-author of the paranormal book 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'I’ve heard about it.  I’ve never done it. I still haven’t seen it first hand, but I’m convinced it’s possible.  All things are, and I’m only one degree of separation from a couple of great stories.  You can make of it what you will.

I have some pretty far out friends.  Let’s say that some of them are further out then the rest of us, but that is precisely what I love about them.  Not only do they think outside the box, heck they don’t even acknowledge the box exists.

So I was at a social gathering at one such friends’ house chatting about this and that with another guest, when I discovered that she, like my friend attended what I will call ‘a mystery school’.  In fact she had been attending as a student going on 12 years or so, therefore I just had to ask, “Have you yourself seen or heard first hand of any thing that the rest of us might call a miracle or miraculous?”

She thought about it for a moment before answering.  I guess I must have come across to her as the open minded, ever curious type that I am, because without embarrassment or hesitation she answered, “Well, I’ve been known to levitate, if you consider that to be miraculous.”

Huh?!  You could have knocked me over with a feather.  “Really?  How exciting.”  I thought.  “So what does that look like?”

She went on to tell me that she had been ‘witnessed’ by others at the school as levitating on more than one occasion during her meditation periods.  What was odd to me was that during the mediation she herself was not aware that she was doing so.  Hmmmmm, curious that.  So obviously it was not a focused intent to levitate but more of a by product of the meditation process.  Very curious.

I had heard of a similar situation with bi-location that went as follows.  Yet another long time student of the same mystery school (a medical doctor I am told) had been a long time practitioner of the ‘Blowing’ Meditation. As I am not a student I can only offer in laymen’s’ terms my understanding that the purpose of getting up at 3’oclock in the morning is to weaken the dominion your ego has over you.  Ego would be that part of you that wants nothing to do with getting out of your warm, cosy, comfortable, pleasing bed at that ungodly hour.  Unfortunately, the ego body likes its creature comforts and goes to great lengths to sabotage anything out of it’s comfort level be it mental or physical.  It does this by jabbering in our brain constantly.

“You don’t really want to get up do you?  You’ve got to be kidding me we’re talking perfectly cosy sheets here and I’m still tired.  I’m soooooooooooo tired and we don’t have to be up for another three hours anyway so what the hell are you doing?  We don’t have to do this”….yadda yadda yadda yadda.  And so it goes.  The discipline is to move beyond it, to shut it down for awhile, to give our mind a break from the constant, insipid yappy voice that all too often ‘gets its own way’ like a spoiled and pampered child.  To create a ‘void’ or silence from thought, and to lengthen the time between thoughts until you can be present without them at all.

Of course that is my perception in laymen’s terms.  I think Dr. Wayne Dyer and Deepak Chopra have far more eloquent ways of looking at it and explaining it than I do.

Nonetheless, a far more disciplined person than I is the subject of this story, and the story goes that they had been engaged in this 3am walking meditation daily for over three years.  One such morning they were spotted by a stranger who drove to work each day via the same route.  The driver claims that one moment the person meditating was over here (pointing here) and then they blinked out and reappeared immediately way over there (pointing there).  It freaked the poor guy out.  What is common between these stories is that the person(s) involved in the meditation weren’t aware they were doing it.  As far as they were concerned they were simply absorbed in the meditation.   Hmmmmmm.

Can bi-location be a stepping stone en route to ascending? Is it similar terrain except that  you are gone for longer periods of time?

I have a third story.  This involves a friend of mine who prefers to remain nameless as is their wish.

Said friend was also meditating, and a facilitator or teacher who was present at the time witnessed him wink out.  Yes, I’m paraphrasing here.  Apparently, he was gone for a few minutes and then just as you please reappeared in the same spot.  His recollection of the event was being aware that during his meditation his consciousness was projecting, but he thought it was astral projecting, he never knew his body had gone with him. If not for a witness account he would never have known.

Levitating, Bi-Locating, Ascending….What seems to be the common denominator?

To me it seems clear that all three in part have something to do with clearing the mind chatter, being present, clearing thoughts away as opposed to creating them with intention.

I can’t say that I know this to be true because I don’t have any first hand experience and yet I am inclined to think anything is possible.  As Albert Einstein pointed out, we use precious little of this thing between our ears.  What else is the rest of it capable of?   Hmmmmm.

Namaste, Nicole

 


The Past Life Meditation

Nicole Chayka is the co-author of the paranormal book 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'This is not for the faint of heart.

Nor is this something I recommend doing at a party or in place of fooling around with Ouija boards. If that’s where you live please stop reading. It is a deeply personal and Spiritual experience and not to be treated like some game or frivolity. I regret having shared it with my sister, and my niece both of whom are lovely people but weren’t ready to address looking into the face of their own past lives. They weren’t ready and it freaked them out.  Actually to qualify the phrase ‘past lives’,  I don’t really believe that there is a past, present, future for the soul (just the body) so it bugs me to use the term ‘past’ life when ‘alternate’ lives seems to be more appropriate.  For the sake of using a well coined term that everybody gets, I’ll try not to be controversial and for the remainder of this post simply say ‘past life’.

There is a simple exercise called the ‘Candle-Mirror Mediation’ which yielded a very strange and wondrous revelation for me.  I was able to connect with myself in such a way as to see the faces I have worn in ‘previous’ lives. (gritting of the teeth here)  I have been told on numerous occasions that I am a very Old Soul and my game plan in this lifetime is merely to sew up that last 5% of human experience before I move on.  I’ve often joked that I must be a ridiculously slow learner if I have been around since before humans had language, and every generation of man there after, and still haven’t nailed down whatever it is I need to know.  Is there dyslexia for life?

N ‘way the meditation takes place in a medium dark room.  You sit on the floor in a comfortable cross legged poise and there is a candle to the right of you and a full length mirror before you. It is important to ground yourself and connect to your higher power to set your intention and the tone for the room.  Only ‘those of Light’ are invited to the party people, no gate crashers!  The idea is to breath deeply and slowly while looking into the flame of the candle until all else but the flame dissolves from your vision.  When you have narrowed down your focus in this way you are to turn your eyes, and your attention to face yourself in the mirror.  As you stare into your own eyes, unblinking, unwavering you continue to breath deeply as you wait for the room to collapse from your view, and all else dissolves but your own eyes.

Then magic begins.

I can’t predict what you will see.  All I can share with you is what I saw.  The faces of both men and women from all times in history, of all backgrounds began to turn as though thumbing through a thick worn leather book.  Then the faces came at me faster, and faster and faster still as both human and non human faces looked back.  I was taken aback for a moment when I realized the Alien visages were still me in another format, but the shock subdued quickly and I eased into the parade of thousands.  Finally, one last image presented itself.  Half my face shimmered as half feline and half human stared back.  Then the other half of my face shimmered and I sat there staring into the calm, collected eyes and face of a tan coloured lioness.  I have no idea what this means, but it would explain the affinity I have always had for cats, and they for me. And the tree climbing.  It also explains the tree climbing (only kidding).

What you will see I can’t say.  How you interpret it will depend upon your current set of beliefs.  For my part I believe in Reincarnation and the many faces we have worn in our attempt to make known the unknown.  I mean we’re eternal.  What the hell else do we have to do except keep pushing the envelope to discover aspects of ourselves and to continue expanding,  to make known the unknown.  Kinda sounds a little like Star Trek exploring the universe ‘going where no one has gone before’ but in this case the universe is internal.  Kinda like the macro is the micro. Ever see fractals?  Same Same.  Now I’m getting philosophical and this was supposed to be about the Candle-Mirror Meditation. Ok that’s enough outta me.

If you should decide to give this a try I’d love to hear back from you and whatever you’d care to share about your experience.  Remember to follow the tenant of the Hitch Hiker’s guide to the Galaxy when you go off exploring and Don’t Panic!  Then come back and tell Nikki all about it.  Do share.

Namaste, Nicole

 


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