“Helping Someone Who Dies Unprepared”

'Ask the Fringe Dweller' Blog Question for Monica Holy author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Submitted on 2010/11/05 at 11:46 am

My mother just died after a long illness but was unprepared for her death.

That night I had an awful nightmare that she was terrified and confused and was in the morgue’s freezer with her body.

How can I help her?

Can you help her, or recommend someone like you who can?

Thank you.

Excerpt of painting 'Grey Wolf' by Psychic, artist Monica Holy, author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Hello There,

First of all, let me say condolences on your Mother’s passing.

My experiences come to me, as in people in distress or lost/traumatized souls find me during my dreams.

I will however, send out intentions and prayers for your Mother. :)

Most often, people closest to us will reach us through visitations. You, can help your Mother, by setting intentions each nite before going to sleep. Just setting forth your intention, and sending love, can make a difference. You can do this throughout the day in your thoughts as well.

Seeing your Mother in your dream the way you did could also be a result/influenced by your fears and awareness of her ‘unpreparedness’.

It has been my experience, that no one dies alone. Your Mother would have been in the presence of another ‘Fringe Dweller’, or ‘Dream Walker’ as some are called, Angel, Guardian, Loved one or Light Being of some nature.

If you have another dream with her, do your best not to have any associations of fear, and send only Love. Cherish the Visitation. More often than not, just being in a calm presence/energy/environment is all that’s needed for someone to match that energetic frequency, recognize what has transpired, and be ready to ‘move on’ in a loving and accepting manner.

Your Mother has most likely moved on and ‘returned to Love’, the place we all came from. She has the wonderful opportunity to meet with friends and loved ones also passed, go to school, teach….there is so much available on the ‘Other Side’.

Sylvia Browne and John Edward both have insightful books on Loved Ones’ passing, that may shed further light on the subject.

I hope this was helpful.

My heart goes out to you at this time,

Sincerely, the Fringe Dweller

 


‘Invisible Helpers’ written by C.W. Leadbeater in 1915

'Ask the Fringe Dweller' Paranormal comments and testimonials for psychic, artist Monica Holy, author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Author CW Leadbeater, circa 1914, a paranormal lucid dreamer similar to psychic, artist and 'Fringe Dweller' author Monica HolySubmitted on 2010/11/01 at 8:04 am
Hi Monica,

I am reading your book and I am amazed!  Thanks for writing it and bringing your experiences into our awareness.

I have also read ‘Invisible Helpers’ written by C.W. Leadbeater in 1915.  A free copy is available on Google Books.  In Chapter 5, page 34, he sort of describes what you do.  I believe that there are so many that help in the in-between.  There is so much yet to be discovered.

I stumbled upon your book in the library and I am so thankful.  Please continue writing.  It helps me to develop on my journey.  You are a gem!

Sincerely,

Erma

Excerpt of painting 'Grey Wolf' by Psychic, artist Monica Holy, author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Hello Erma,

Thank you for your kind words.

I’m so glad to hear the book is available at the library. The intention behind the Fringe Dweller Book, was to share my experiences, and make it readily available to those seeking out information, and hopefully lessening the isolation and fear often accompanying paranormal experiences.

Thank you for sharing the book ‘Invisible Helpers’. I’ll be looking into it. It’s rather exciting to think someone in 1915 wrote of similar experiences, like a treasure chest I can explore!

I too believe many out there share a broad range of experiences. It’s been wonderful that many people have written in and shared their stories, I’m still working on posting them all.

Sincerely, the Fringe Dweller

 


“Spreading the Message to other Fringe Dwellers”

'Ask the Fringe Dweller' Paranormal comments and testimonials for psychic, artist Monica Holy, author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Submitted on 2009/12/25 at 4:18 pm

Your name Monica Holy says it. It is holy work you are doing.

Many, many people do this work. All souls of evolvement help out.

Me too. I experienced helping a lone arctic explorer who had called out for help. I was in meditation at the time. I went to his side. He felt my presence and was comforted. Same with a large boat going down. I was under water helping to guide the souls who were passing over. 9/11 was a major time for such as us. We are all put to use.

The spiritual hierarchy are here in abundance. The time demands it. I wish you well in getting
the message out there for those who have no idea just what lies within them.

God Bless,

Bhavani, England.

Excerpt of painting 'Grey Wolf' by Psychic, artist Monica Holy, author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Hello Bhavani

My name is what it is, I can live with it now, however in high school growing up-well that’s another matter altogether lol!

It’s wonderful to hear from another Fringe Dweller. Thank you for sharing your story. This is what getting the message out there is all about, people like you coming forward in open dialogue about your experiences. It re-confirms that we are not alone in our journey as Fringe Dwellers.

I hope hearing and reading more about this subject, will bring people some understanding and lessen any fears they may have surrounding supernatural, paranormal, psychic, medium and lucid dream experiences they have encountered. You are so right in mentioning all the people out there who may have no idea of what lies within them. Let’s hope all this discussion brings about new untapped potential for good things.

“Embrace your inner Freakdom-make it your Dance Partner” is what I like to encourage!

Thank you for spreading the message,

Sincerely, the Fringe Dweller

 


Paranormal Activity

Nicole Chayka is the co-author of the paranormal book 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'I’m going to reach into the vault of my childhood and share a little about growing up with a Fringe Dweller .  Our childhood was wicked cool and if only my sense of humor was as developed then as it is now I would have enjoyed it that much more.  Unfortunately I spent more time shitting my pants than having a good time.  On the flip side I did learn how to get stains outof my clothing, a very important skill come college.

Adolescence was a barrage of Telekinetic activity.   As if being a teenage comic book nerd isn’t bad enough there were all the secrets we felt we had to keep from the adult population.  At least we had each other.  Nonetheless, electronics had a way of blowing up when Monica blew her cool.  Furthermore was the ongoing more mainstream psychic slash mediumship stuff.  She saw and heard Ghosts, I felt them as surely as bats have sonar.  Telepathy was ongoing as we regularly burst into whatever song was playing in the other person’s head.  On a daily basis there was always some little thing such as stepping into the elevator of the apartment where I lived and telling the other occupant that we were going to the same floor as them, even though they hadn’t selected the floor yet.  That was every day.  That was usual.  One of my all time favorite stories involved a Premonition which still never ceases to thrill me.  I’m glad that it never gets old.

My father had inexplicably built the family home over top the area where formerly a barn had existed and subsequently burnt to the ground.  (of course you know where this is going.) Yes, some people had died in it and naturally our house was haunted but not in a bad way.  There was a young boy, ever the trickster, playing pranks and hiding our stuff. We came to accept this, and occasionally sternly insisted he return the objects to where we had left them (which he did).  There was also a man, presumably his father, who would look for him asking if we had seen the boy.  Monica’s first night sleeping over at my place was quite the game of hide and seek as the boy snuck into my room, index finger pressed to his lips insisting we not rat him out, followed by a man asking us if we had seen where the boy went.  Back in the day neither of us had any experience communicating with spirits and/or pointing them towards the light so it didn’t occur to us to send them packing.  For the most part they were harmless.  A pain in the ‘keester’ at times, but harmless until one prank went too far. As I said before we went out of our way to appear normal and anything that highlighted us as standing apart from the status quo was taboo.  So bearing that in mind…

Imagine getting a call earlier in the day from a 17 year old Monica saying, “Ok, youve got to keep this on the low down and not freak out your mother, but I saw one of your water pipes bursting and it’s going to be a cold one tonight.”  Being winter time bursting pipes was nothing new in rural Ontario, so comically I relayed the story to my family that we should have that bucket ready.  Later that night a pipe did burst in our cellar which was unfinished so all the pipes in the basement ceiling were fully exposed as I stood on a chair holding back the deluge with my hand capped firmly over the end.  My mother in sheer panic phoned the plumber getting him out of bed imploring him to come over immediately to help deal with the problem while I stood sleepily on tippy toe.

Then the worst happened.  Mr. Plumber man came in the middle of the night to inspect our little emergency only to re-emerge upstairs shaking his head from side to side.  “Mrs. Chayka I can’t help you.” he said.

“Why not?”  my mother implored, clearly  upset by the thought that we were on our own.

“Because” he said, “The pipe that your daughter is holding is not attached to anything.  It IS a water pipe but it’s just sitting up in the ceiling as though it would be attached to the other runs at some future date, but it isn’t attached to anything physically at the moment.  I can’t explain it.  There is water gushing out of it but it is coming from nowhere.”

With that my mother turned to me and said, “Well you might as well come down from there, you can’t stand there all night.”  And shortly thereafter the geyser stopped.

You can bet I had a couple cross words for the little boy ghost who loved playing practical jokes and messing with us.  As only an older kid can threaten and scare the Bejeesus out of a younger kid, I treated him like a sibling scolding the younger and he never took it that far again.

As for our secret it was loosened a little from the bag but not altogether, mind you my mom always looked at Monica with one eyebrow cocked.  Happily that was the worst of it as far as she was concerned, if only she knew how far down the rabbit hole we went.  You don’t expect me to tell you everything in one sitting do you?  You’d have no reason to come back if I did that.  Cheers!

Namaste, Nicole

 


“I was Trained to Astral Project and Work with the Dead”

'Ask the Fringe Dweller' Paranormal comments and testimonials for psychic, artist Monica Holy, author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Submitted on 2009/12/19 at 5:09 am

Hello Monica,

I’m completely amazed right now … reading about what you do ….. because I do
the same thing! Well … it’s similar. I was trained by a Native American Shaman
as a child to astral project and work with the dead as you do. I can also do it lucid .. and I think it’s very similar .. if not the same thing.

Wow! I’m so happy to know someone else is doing this! There are so many people that need help!

Thank you so much for making me feel not so alone.

+Valerie

Excerpt of painting 'Grey Wolf' by Psychic, artist Monica Holy, author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Hello Valerie,

Thank you for your kind words. How incredible to be trained by a Native Shaman!  It’s wonderful to hear that this type of teaching exists.

I couldn’t be happier from all the responses that say the book Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift has helped people in not feeling so alone.

And yes, there are so many people that need help, and it’s good to hear of other ‘Fringe Dwellers’ out there. Blessings to all your offerings in your dream journeys.

Sincerely, The Fringe Dweller

 


“I thought I was quite Crazy…”

'Ask the Fringe Dweller' Paranormal comments and testimonials for psychic, artist Monica Holy, author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Submitted on 2009/12/01 at 12:41 am

Thanks so much for writing your book Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift . I have been helping souls pass over too, for most of my life. I thought I was quite crazy, until I was helping souls during 9/11, not knowing at the time what had happened, and waking up to turn on the TV to find it was exactly how I had just witnessed it (I am in Australia). The tsunami time as well was something I saw on TV that I had just witnessed. So those times gave me faith that it wasn’t all in my mind!

I saw your book, and I was very excited. My experiences follow yours so very closely. I shall look out for you on my travels, I haven’t seen too many others doing this, but I am asleep here whilst you are awake there! Bless you with a thousand blessings…

Julieanne

Excerpt of painting 'Grey Wolf' by Psychic, artist Monica Holy, author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Hello Julieanne

It’s wonderful to hear from a fellow Fringe Dweller in Australia! That validation we get by seeing our Dreams in the news can be heart wrenching as we realize those  tragedies  really happened. However knowing we aren’t ‘imagining’ things is very important as it helps keep us sane. People who haven’t had these Paranormal, Supernatural, or Spiritual experiences may not understand to what depth we struggle internally to make sense of it all, let alone accept it.

Thank you for your kind words, and I too will keep a lookout  for you on my travels.

Sincerely, The Fringe Dweller

 


‘Astral Triage with a Fringe Dweller’

October 2009

Kinetics Magazine-October 2009 featuring psychic, artist, author Monica HolyOctober’s edition of Kintetics Magazine is featuring an article titled ‘Astral Triage with a Fringe Dweller’ by Monica Holy.

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“Does the Soul care if the body is cremated at Death?”

'Ask the Fringe Dweller' Blog Question for Monica Holy author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Submitted on 2009/11/13 at 3:58pm

Your book is a blessing and I have a question..does the soul care if the body is cremated at death?

Thanks Sara

Excerpt of painting 'Grey Wolf' by Psychic, artist Monica Holy, author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Hi Sara,

Thank you for your kind words, I hope you found the book Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift to be helpful.

So far, it has not been my experience that Cremation is an issue when a Soul Crosses Over. Strong  beliefs about something before you  cross over, can affect the frequency you vibrate at, and possibly influence what you envision as you cross over. Someone who is agitated, and feels there’s unfinished business, may feel strongly enough about something to have these emotional vibrations accompany them upon Death.  The power this has over you, comes from the importance you place upon it. One way to view our physical body, is that it’s the ‘package’, or ‘wrapping’ we showed up in. What’s inside, the Soul, has a Higher Awareness we sometimes lose touch with. I work primarily with Lost or distressed Souls, however, I have been blessed to accompany those who upon passing, embrace the knowing, the ‘remembering’ of where they came from, as they return to wholeness, to the Light and a Source that is in complete acceptance, and has  No Judgment.

Sincerely, the Fringe Dweller

 


“I thought there was something very wrong with me, that’s why I hid it.”

'Ask the Fringe Dweller' Paranormal comments and testimonials for psychic, artist Monica Holy, author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'

Submitted on 2009/11/04 at 4:49pm

Hi,

I just wanted to say that I have had similar experiences in my life.  I have always known that I do not sleep at night and travel and do jobs elsewhere.  In the 1970s, while I was “sleeping”, I worked with Light Beings who rescued earthbound people and took them to the Light. I discontinued doing it because in this life I was to be a teacher and I needed to concentrate all my energy in that area.

Since then, I have used incorporation counseling method to do the same work while in trance.  It is not as effective method to help earthbound souls, but it helps.  I have seen so called “dead” people all my life, and like you, I learned at a very early age to keep it quiet.  I also see auras around people and on a few occasions, have given  readings for friends, but usually it wasn’t a good idea.  I was correct in what I saw and said, but I usually lost a friend over it “because it was too weird”, so I quit doing it.

I got no encouragement from my mother to be the “real” me; usually she accused me of lying.  When I was in my 50’s and she was living with me, she admitted she knew what was going on with me because her mother had been clairvoyant.  She said she didn’t want me to be like her mother, because it had caused a lot of friction in her family when growing up.  I could have enjoyed an ally as a child.  I thought there was something very wrong with me, that’s why I hid it. When I was 34 years old I met some people like me.  It made life so much nicer.

I can really relate to your experiences recorded in your book.  Thank you for writing it.  It is so nice to find a “kindred soul.”

Carolyn Poppen

Excerpt of painting 'Grey Wolf' by Psychic, artist Monica Holy, author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Dear Carolyn

I understand when you say you needed to concentrate all your energy to what you were doing in this life as a teacher. It’s utterly exhausting to continually ‘work overtime’. I found saying an Affirmation before sleeping such as ‘I will get all the rest I need tonight’ really helps. In my case when I was over exhausted my Guides would stand ‘guard’ at my bedroom door, redirecting those in need to other ‘Fringe Dwellers’ out there. We are not alone, and we can ask for what we need, a wonderful concept I didn’t discover until a few years ago myself!

Despite our feelings of isolation while growing up, perhaps we can now take consolation by making a difference for others. I feel communication and support without judgment is necessary for people to feel ‘safe’ enough to open up and share their experiences. I understand when you say ‘It made life so much nicer’ when you met others like you. To live one’s life in complete authenticity is very liberating, empowering, and loving.

I’m in a state of gratitude when I hear that this book has brought comfort to someone. Thank you for writing and sharing your experiences.  It was my very isolation growing up that sparked the need to share mine with the Fringe Dweller book.

So to other Fringe Dwellers out there I say… ‘Embrace you Freakdom!’, and as my friend Lynn repeatedly would say, ‘Don’t be afraid to be who you are.’

Sincerely, the Fringe Dweller

 


When the Gift isn’t.

Nicole Chayka is the co-author of the paranormal book 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'I don’t want to sound like I am bitching, moaning, or otherwise kvetching…but I really need to lay down a foundation of honesty here.   Some people think it would be wild to be Monica, to have the ‘quote-unquote’ gifts she has, and I really want to be open to those toying with the notion to be careful what you wish for.  It’s not all fun and games.

Sure it’s cool to go gallivanting around the universe; to astral travel through time and space. Who wouldn’t like to explore or play with consciousness? It’s especially exciting if you can forget your human structure and allow your imagination to take you where it will.

But then there’s the bad stuff.

The stuff we try not to sensationalize or put a big ol’ strobe light on, nonetheless, it exists.  There are times when she is called upon to be a witness.  She can’t intercede or stop a harrowing murder, all she can do is be there for the person before, during and after they cross over, and all without condemning or even judging the murderer.

Could you do that?

I couldn’t.  I’m simply not evolved enough for that.  Sometimes she experiences the death along with them-the physical sensations, the thoughts in their heads, their life long memories.

Could you do that?

I couldn’t. I’m simply not strong enough for that. Sometimes she watches children die, and she has to accept that it was meant to go down this way, for a greater good that only our higher selves knows or understands.

Could you do that?

I couldn’t, and keep my sanity anyway.  Monica admitted that she tinkered on the brink before coming to terms with what was required of her so I say this with the utmost of compassion. Be careful what you wish for.  It’s not all a joy ride out there in the slipstream of consciousness.

But then again, sometimes, it is.

Namaste, Nicole

 


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