Fringe Dweller: an afterlife paramedic

Submitted on 2009/12/21 at 6:12 pm

What system of self protection do you initiate to keep from unwanted intrusion/interference? Do you surround yourself in white light etc…?

Note: Great interview on Dreamland.

Fabulous artwork.

You are so articulate and your joyfulness is delightful.

Barbara

Dear Barbara,

I talked about basic methods of protection in the post “Am I Opening a Door I’m  not ready for?” in answer to a similar question. However here are some additional tools.

A good start, is not inviting any Dark Energies ‘in for tea’. When meditating, or intent with prayer, only invite and ask for those of ‘The Light’. Nicole wrote in more detail about Dark Energies and ‘ways to send them packing’ in her Coming Out of the Psychic Closet blog post “A Word on Ouija Boards”.

There are methods of protecting or ‘Smudging’ your home against unwanted or lingering intrusions. Smudging, is a ritual purification by smoke using herbs thought to purify. Many people smudge their home before social gatherings to infuse the space with good energy, and afterward to rid it of any unwanted ones. Energies can cling on to objects as well. I smudge articles I’ve purchased as soon as I bring them home, especially antiques or used items. Everything has an energetic history.

As for personal protection, it’s always a good practice to Ground Yourself. There are a multitude of ways to envision this. It’s a matter of personal preference, and finding a way that works for you. One method if you are standing, is to envision tree roots from your feet and toes embedding themselves deeply into the earth, while silver strands of light extend from your head into the sky above. Other methods involve imagining yourself laying down, with tree roots extending from each of your Chakras to the earth beneath you, while strands of light extend from each of your Chakras to the sky above you. This is a wonderful method to start and end your day with as you lay down in bed.

Thank you for your kind words, and I hope these methods of protection are helpful.

Sincerely, The Fringe Dweller

Submitted on 2009/11/20 at 2:41 am

Just curious- why do you think there is dark energy if we’re all trying to be positive and all that?

What good does it do to have the dark side?

Amber

Hi Amber,

To answer with one word- BALANCE. It’s difficult to have one point of perspective, without the other. We need to have both for a whole frame of reference. However, for a more detailed answer, check out co-author Nicole’s ‘Coming Out of The Psychic Closet’ Blog post titled ‘The Purpose of Dark Energies’.

Sincerely, The Fringe Dweller

A word to the wise on Ouijas or ‘Talking Boards’ as they have been called for centuries. There are two schools of thought on what goes on during a seance and neither one should be treated as lightly as to call it ‘a game’.    A Ouija, like a pendulum or set of dice is nothing more than an ‘indicator’ that points to yes/no/maybe and or spells out words in order to communicate.  Some believe that it is our own unconscious mind pushing the indicator around giving us the answers to our own questions.  Others think it is messages from the ‘great beyond’.

I think its both.

Similar to muscle testing such as that used in kinesiology whereby we access our subconscious mind testing for allergic reactions, a pendulum or Ouija isn’t so dissimilar in methodology. The body doesn’t lie.  You ask and it tells the unbiased truth.  It can reveal to you what you already know, not what you don’t know.  It does not for example tell you the future.

Then there’s the other stuff.

You might think that Ouija boards are nothing more than a game made up by some toy company to incite the imaginations of kids but they are more, and they can be dangerous.  Actually, it kinda pisses me off that Parker Brothers put these things on the shelves like it was another board game they were selling instead of a gateway and communication tool for spirits. Yeah, let’s let a kid going through all the regular teenage stuff play around with that….good idea.  Teenagers are walking soap operas.  Combine all the regular world of adolescent soaps along with a jumble of emotional telekinetic energy and you have the making of a cesspool soup.  Negative energetic beings LOVE cesspool soup.  They nosh on it every chance they get.  It’s like mother’s milk to them so when you put a Ouija board into the hands of an unprepared, emotionally immature human caught somewhere between being a child and not quite an adult yet….you might as well open the front door to the spirit world, offer a complete stranger a beer and tell them to take a load off!

So now we’re gonna talk about rules, boundaries and limitations.  Thanks Caesar, it’s not just for dogs.

Poltergeists, or let’s call them assholes for short, enjoy playing with you if you are willing to offer up your ‘attention’ to them to take advantage of.  If you are silly enough to actually take them seriously, follow their advice, or think that they have some special insight because they are from ‘the other side’ they can create havoc and have great fun at your expense.  Teenagers therefore run a great risk of being ‘suckered’ by these assholes who prey upon them and looooove having their attention.  All that lovely teenage angst to manipulate and a willing pair of arms and legs to do their mischief.  What fun!  The best way to send them packing is to simply ignore them. Tell them to go away. Stop playing the game and giving your attention away to them and they’ll grow bored and move on.

It’s the last set of characters that worry me.

Just as in life, there are some dangerous entities who are disincarnate.  They are angry, violent and prey upon those who give them their ear.  Like all dysfunctional relationships they are control freaks, and when you get wise and pull away there is usually a tantrum involved.  Telekinetic energy can be frightening. Having little visits in your dream states when you too are disincarnate….equally frightening. Yes, once they have your attention they will try to isolate you so that they can prey on (and feed on) your negative emotional states.  In fact, they hang out in your energetic field (aura) noshing on negativity so if they can induce a state of fear or panic, or depression you have offered yourself up to them via your attention, and your emotional states to be their play thing.  Ever try to break up with a sociopath?  It will be that hard to get rid of them.

I recommend not inviting them in.

Don’t play. You may want to speak to a certain someone but it doesn’t work that way.  You have no control over who is going to show up.  If however you are going do it anyway and not heed my advice then remember that you are creator and your free will is everything.  Decree that only those of the light and love may answer your questions via this device.  Smudge the space before and after to cleanse any negative energies from your space.  And if you find yourself with any ‘cling-ons’ who don’t want to let go don’t be afraid to ask for help.  Isolation and keeping stuff to yourself is NOT the way to go.  Invite in the light.  Love and Light, Love and Light, Love and Light.  Sour the damn milk. Never, never, never keep stuff like this to yourself. If you don’t know about smudging seek out a local Shaman through a spiritualist church or organization and ask for help.

Now the fireplace is over there in the corner….place the board there.  They make damn good kindling.

Namaste, Nicole

A question that has come up a number of times needs to be addressed so I will take a poke at it…..What is the purpose of dark energy? Why can’t we live in Mr. Roger’s neighborhood all the time or put another way, Why can’t we all just get along?

An overused metaphor but it works.   There is no light without dark. We need the contrast to tell the difference.  In life we are energetic light beings walking around in a body having a human experience, and who we are is reflected back to us via those around us.  What I mean by that is how we respond to events placed in our path tells us more of who we are, and furthermore gives us the opportunity to rise to the level of love, and test our beliefs in a very concrete way.  How many heroes arise from the ugliness brought on by tyrants?  Yes, even ‘dark energy’ in the form of another human being allows us to measure ourselves by our core truths and convictions.  Thus, the question of positive and negative polarities themselves come into question.  What is one without the other? Now I’ve answered the question as though the dark energies were externalized, however, there is a dark side that exists within each one of us. The human experience has a wide range of emotions.  Energy is neither good nor bad but thinking makes it so.  What you decide to do with it is a matter of free will, and free will again, will define you. So my answer in short is that dark energy serves a purpose in order to offer you an opportunity to exercise your free will, and thus define what you choose to be. So let me ask you this, “How do you wanna show up?”  Circumstances don’t define us, they reveal us.

After 2300+ odd past lives I can tell you a) I’m a very slow learner and b) I’ve played every role from the self absorbed-control freak bastard to whatever it is I am now.  I’d like to think I’m inching my way towards love, compassion and enlightenment, but I may have a ways to go.  It may take another 99 lives or perhaps in a burst of inspiration I’ll get a hole in one.  The point is we are all eternal beings who will get there eventually on our own schedule.  If we do the math it’s inevitable.  Eternal = a very long time so time or the constant now is literally on your side.  I digress.  If you think of the ‘dark side’ as being an aspect of yourself that you pass through en route to embodying love, then having been the jerk will certainly allow you an insiders peek to understand and ultimately forgive other jerks as they trundle down their dark path reeking havoc on the rest of us. Namaste. The God in me acknowledges the God in you. We are one.  Takes on a whole new meaning when you think of it this way no?

Namaste, Nicole

Submitted on 2009/09/27 at 5:37am

Dear Fringe.

As a kid, I actually believed I saw spirits. When I was told they weren’t real I stopped. When I was teenager, I saw some again. One was an actual ancestor Indian chief, full head dress and all. Then they would only appear at time of emotional crisis, and always they were positive and encouraging. Never a bad thought and always trying to teach me to use talents. And I have had great success in my career. So… I’d decided I wanted to do hospice volunteering. I thought that would be good to give back. But I’m worried. Will I be sensing more spirits. I encountered a few before recently. Non-threatening. But if I do this, am I opening a door that I am not ready for?

‘Wish to remain Anonymous’

Dear ‘Wish to remain Anonymous’.

This happens all too often…as kids we don’t question things…we have no inhibitions…it’s the behavioral conditioning that we’re brought up with, and surrounded by that starts to mold us with new beliefs. Even our culture, or the religion we’re brought up in has influences. I’m guessing that if I were to ask you, at the time you saw these spirits, in your heart you knew them to be real? As I said, I’m merely guessing this. It’s something to reflect upon and ponder yourself how you felt.

My spirit guides too come in low points of my life, and they have been of the deepest understanding, with a love so unconditional that’s astounding in its intensity…I find  words don’t properly reflect what I feel.

I think you are blessed to have these communications….what a gift your are receiving !

It sounds like you have a good heart…an open heart…which means yes you’re more likely to be sensitive to anything around you. You’re most likely empathetic as well. I ’d say you’re chances are pretty good to sensing more spirits if you allow yourself to be open to that experience.

I feel you asked the right question about potentially opening a door that you may not be ready for.  I don’t know your knowledge of these experiences, but you would do well to learn more about protecting yourself. Now I’m not plugging my book here when I say I go into steps to protect yourself, but to repeat all here would take too long, and if I simply cut and pasted my publisher would have a copyright fit…lol…..(hey, we need to keep our humor).

The simplest and quickest way to protect yourself when you feel unwanted energy, is to mentally surround yourself in white light…come up with a visualization that works for you. Have that bubble of white light extend out to your personal space as far as what feels comfortable for you Some people envision a cascade of white honey running down the top of their head to their toes…whatever works for you.

Now, most importantly…send love…mentally send love, extend love outwards…and repeat in your head or out loud as often as you need to…’ALL THAT IS NOT MINE, PLEASE LEAVE’.

You can even envision a mirrored box around you (I actually did a painting of this for chapter 4 of the book , called ‘The Greys’. You can view the painting THE GREYS on the website). It’s a two way mirror. You can see out, however those outside of your mirrored box, only see reflected back what they project onto you. It comes back to them, it doesn’t pass through your mirrors…only Love can penetrate in…and Love is what is sent out to them.

I’d like to recommend an incredible book that I feel could help immensely. It’s called ‘The Four Agreements’ by Don Miguel Ruiz…it’s a Toltec Wisdom book which fits nicely with your First Nation spirit guides. it was a huge help to me, it really enabled me to work with people…all people, those living and even those not.

I hope this helped.

Sincerely, the Fringe Dweller

acrylic on canvas = 5.5′h x 7′w

THE GREYS

Dream Journal entry:

Wednesday, January 14 2003

It was not so bad at first when it was like the crunching of dry autumn leaves underfoot. But still, a small chill ran up my spine and down the backs of my legs like a breeze from the long shadows of approaching winter. A warning of the cold.

The sound grew then, as I listened. What is that? I thought. Is that leaves? No, not leaves. It was too persistent, too relentless. It was something in the walls, something wanting to come out. It was more of a scuttling. Like a swarm of a thousand insects, coming out of the walls, perhaps, coming from nowhere and everywhere. Images flitted through my mind—the dust bowl, the trembling farmer, Egypt, locusts with mandibles clicking in voracious appetite.

The hairs all down the back of my neck stood on end. I felt a nameless dread. Then I saw them—the source of my growing fear. Grey figures— looming, needy, hungry, always wanting. They were huddling together, bound to each other by their dark energies, by the heaviness of their woe. They clothed themselves in it, this woe, gathering it around themselves for whatever ragged warmth it might provide. But of course there was no warmth. There was only poverty, cold, rejection and aching, desperate hunger.

As one they surged towards me, wanting. Wanting what? Nothing, everything. Just wanting, empty, filled with lack. Huge with lack.

All of a sudden, I felt tiny—a small light in the oppressive despair that moved toward me. If that darkness reached me, I would be lost. I would be consumed, left nothing but a stalk stripped of its grain.

My mind hurried to build the box of mirrors that would protect me. Above, below, forward and back, the reflective surfaces began to take shape, but it was too late. Already I could feel the dark energy starting to suck me under.

“Ooooh, #%&*!!!” I thought, “get me outta here!” And with that I was gone.

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