“Can I Develop My ‘Dream State’ Occurances?”

Coast to Coast Radio aftershow paranormal question for Monica Holy, psychic, artist and author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Coast to Coast Radio with host Ian Punnet in a paranormal discussion with psychic, artist Monica Holy, author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Submitted on 11/07/2010 8:24 AM

“Dream State”

When I’m almost asleep, I see moving scenes of people, places, animals, etc.

Is this anything similar to what you experience?

Can I develop these occurrences into something more as a person would develop a skill?

I look forward to listening to you on Coast to Coast.

Thanks very much,

Joe

Excerpt of painting 'Grey Wolf' by Psychic, artist Monica Holy, author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Hello Joe,

What you describe is exactly what I see, and yes, I believe you can work on developing these skills.

My skills grew as a result of continuous immersion into nightly experiences. Believe me, growing up I asked for ‘the manual’ every opportunity I could…lol!

I’ve often recommended the book, Toltec Dreaming: Don Juan’s Teachings on the Energy Body by Ken Eagle Feather, because I personally resonated with his experiences and descriptions. I like to offer his perspective and exercises for anyone who is seriously looking to expand their dream journey’s. He goes into great detail to explain the various dream states, and their possible meanings.

I hope you enjoyed the Coast to Coast program, and thank you for listening.

You may also choose to check out other people’s similar queries that are answered on the website page Ask the Fringe Dweller.

I plan to compile everyone’s Coast to Coast responses in a special page, as the feedback is overwhelming, and a wonderful resource to share.

Thank you for writing in, I hope this was helpful,

Sincerely, the Fringe Dweller

 


Shadow Figures aka ‘Dweller on the Threshold’

'Ask the Fringe Dweller' Blog Question for Monica Holy author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'

Submitted on 2010/10/29 at 10:35 pm

Hello,

Monica I have been trying to understand my son’s experiences about things he sees, like shadow figures with red glowing eyes or people standing by his bed.

He hears voices, some not to good and others he doesn’t understand. He used to dream of traveling to weird dark places to get a person out, but sometimes he travels to beautiful places, where it seems to relax him.

He’s very intuitive and able to say things that tend to happen later now. I think he has a special gift but he is still too afraid to face his experiences. Is there a message for him for his Guides on how he can better deal with this?

I had bought your book Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift for him to read so he can understand why he was going through this. By the way, I really enjoy your book. It has helped me by confirming on what I believe in my life.

Thank you, your friend.

Rebecca

Excerpt of painting 'Grey Wolf' by Psychic, artist Monica Holy, author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Hello Rebecca,

In my early childhood, I started out with similar experiences “like Shadow Figures with Red Glowing Eyes”.

I don’t know how old your son is, however I will offer the following.

Like attracts like. The emotional environment your son has towards any Astral/OBE experience beforehand, will have direct influence on the experience itself. Fear of the unknown will intensify, cycle and grow. His imagination has the potential to get the better of him. This is common to those new to these type of experiences.

There is a name associated with this type of experience, it’s called ‘Dweller on the Threshold’ by author Robert Bruce.  His book   Astral Dynamics: A New Approach to Out-Of-Body Experiences is a wealth of information on the Scientific/psychology of astral experiences. I resonate with much of what he describes, as it mirrors many of my experiences.

Here is the typical scenario, for Astral traveling ‘newbies’. A shadowy, menacing humanoid shape, usually all featureless black with burning red eyes. Mine was large, grey, and distinctly furry, but also with burning red eyes. For some people, it may remain motionless, or it may take steps forward and make threatening gestures. In some cases it will be silent, or breathe heavily and loudly. It may snarl, giggle, laugh, call you by name or even threaten you with doom and gloom.

Robert attests that this type of ‘Dweller Monster’ never attacks or harms an Astral Projector. I know for myself (as a child during these experiences), that if I let my fear get the better of me, so did my personal ‘Monster’. Once I confronted and ordered him away, he disappeared.

Now, in my current experiences, I know and understand how vital it is to be a calm, and dispassionate observer of events. I liken it to the movie The Matrix, and the character Neo. As long as you are in control of your emotional awareness, you have the ability to be in the emotional control of your astral experiences. Again, like attracts like.

The more positive experiences your son has, the less levels of fear he will have and associate.

Again, I don’t know how old your son is. I highly encourage an open line of communication. I remember the best solace I had at an early age, was hearing the words ‘I believe you, and I support you’ from my closest high school friend. I then felt open to speak freely in a safe and supportive environment. I remembered how isolated I had felt, and now do my best to remain open and approachable to my own son, who is coming forward with his experiences.

Depending how old your son is, he or you may be able to check out further resources through Don Miguel Ruiz’s  The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom, A Toltec Wisdom Book , and Ken Eagle Feather’s Toltec Dreaming: Don Juan’s Teachings on the Energy Body for further control of astral experiences, and the a fore mentioned Astral Dynamics by Robert Bruce for the ‘how’ and ‘what’ of things.

Something to consider, is no one can take away, or talk someone out of their experience, it’s their experience. Take what resonates with you (or your son), and leave the rest behind. For example,  I have similar, and dissimilar experiences from Sylvia Browne. You, and your son, will know what feels right.

Another thing to remember, is that nothing can harm you while you are out of your body. Your ethereal ‘dream body’ is an energetic double, and therefore virtually invulnerable. It’s the understanding, and ‘knowing’ of that, which will enable positive experiences.

I’m glad you enjoyed the book, and thank you for your kind words.

I hope the book and above information will help you and your son.

May all your experiences be joyous ones,

Sincerely, the Fringe Dweller

 


“Are there Dangers to OBE’s?”

'Ask the Fringe Dweller' Blog Question for Monica Holy author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Submitted on 2010/06/12 at 12:43 am

Hey Monica,

Love your web site.

I have found all kinds of wonderful info on how to have an OBE (Out of Body Experience).

However, now that I have the info and am ready  to try it, I’m wondering about any dangers that may be waiting just outside my physical body. I’ve never even attempted this before and know nothing outside of what I’ve read online.

Any helpful hints you have would be greatly appreciated.

Barbara

Excerpt of painting 'Grey Wolf' by Psychic, artist Monica Holy, author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Hello Barbara,

If you haven’t already read these, I’d like to recommend two books. One is Toltec Dreaming: Don Juan’s Teachings on the Energy Body by Ken Eagle Feather. The author goes into great detail of the various states of dreaming, including “creating a conscious dreaming body, often referred to as an out-of-body experience.”

The second is  Astral Dynamics: A New Approach to Out-Of-Body Experiences by Robert Bruce. The author goes into detail about the various astral states and planned out of body experiences, including bi-location.

Both books offer suggested do’s and don’ts for Astral Travel.

I can offer a few suggestions for Psychic Protection  from my own experiences:

Learn to Ground yourself before embarking on any astral journey.

Protect yourself via positive intention and mantras. You can set boundaries by giving yourself cues to ‘come back safely’ if you find yourself in an uncomfortable experience.

Know that there is a connection between your physical body, and your astral body. This is referred to as a ‘Silver Cord’ that connects the two. Think of it as a safety bungee cord. Just being aware of its existence, may ease your trepidation about astral travel.

It’s important to be in a positive state of being, stress free, to allow the experience to unfold into a pleasurable one. Fear and stress will only hinder and challenge any experience. If you subconsciously tell yourself there may be dangers, you’ve already created that layer of resistance. If this is the case, you may not be ready for the experience.

It’s tough, however letting go of any preconceived ideas is helpful. Do your best not to project any expectations, and allow the journey to proceed without judgment. I’ve found as soon as you stop being simply the observer of things, the experience tends to slide sideways into unpredictable nonsense before grinding to a sudden halt.

Don’t be hard on yourself, as in disappointment if nothing happens. Let it go, and try a nightly routine of intention before sleep time. It may be months before anything occurs, or it may be that very first time…do your best to simply allow what is.

If you hear or see a cue that it’s time to return to your body, act on it. I’ve often heard a voice telling my ‘it’s time to go back now’, as if from an ethereal guardian. Its comforting to know they exist. I’ve noticed the longer I do stay ‘away’, the rougher the re-entry can be…lol. Don’t be alarmed, it sometimes feels like a bumpy return landing on an airport runway!

You may want to keep a Dream Journal by your bedside, to jot down initial impressions as you return.

I hope this helps, and may all your astral journeys be joyful and rewarding.

Sincerely, the Fringe Dweller

 


“I hear Voices during my Lucid Dreaming and OBE”

'Ask the Fringe Dweller' Blog Question for Monica Holy author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Submitted on 2010/02/25 at 2:33 pm

Hi Monica :)

I have a question for you about a recent experience of mine.  Throughout my life I have had many intuitive or “paranormal” (for lack of a better word) experiences such as knowing things before they happen, seeing/sensing spirits, and having lucid dreams, but they have all been widely interspersed through the years (I’m 22 now) and fairly infrequent.  I had my first OBE at 17 and another last year.

I began listening to these hypnotic trance CDs about two weeks ago that have really been putting me into a deep state every time I listen to them, and ever since I have been experiencing lucid dreaming almost every other night, including intense flying dreams, and last week I had another OBE.  It’s funny, because the CDs are only meant to bring you into more of an abundance mentality, but it seems like they have opened up more channels for me.

What’s most interesting is the experience that I had while I was out of body.  It started with a dream, then I was flying over the ocean, (in the most conscious, lucid state I have ever experienced while dreaming) then I was floating barely a foot above my body in bed and feeling myself out of my body and yet I could feel my limbs buzzing at the same time.  Here’s the weird part: as I was laying there, I suddenly heard this voice.  And we’re not talking like dream-hearing, where you know you heard it but it doesn’t really make any sound.  No, I heard this with my ears.  It was almost like picking up static from a radio frequency.

The first thing the voice said was a long string of numbers and letters, something similar to: “M41IYIYIYIYIY.”  Then it spoke a couple of sentences in English, but get this: I couldn’t comprehend it.  I heard each word, recognized it as an English word, knew that the sentence should make sense, but as hard as I tried I simply could not put any meaning to the words, and had no idea what he was saying.  Then, it gets stranger: I heard MY voice respond – with another sentence I couldn’t comprehend – but I wasn’t trying to say anything back.  I get the feeling it wasn’t me, it just was my voice somehow.  Then the other voice responded, and I heard, clear as day: “can you hear me?”

This was the first time I actually felt like the voice was “aware” of me, so to speak, and was actually addressing ME, floating/laying there, and I could understand what he was saying.  The impression that I got was that it was surprised by my hearing it.  I tried to respond with a simple “yes,” but without meaning to I was trying to speak with my lips, rather than just thinking it, and I felt my lips move but all that came out was this long garbled noise like you would hear if someone tried to talk underwater, and my attempting to physically move is what I think snapped me out of it and back into my body.  As I lay there, the voices literally went quiet around me and the silence in the room grew SO loud.  I’ve never experienced anything like that before.

So my question is, do you have any idea what the voices could have been or what I was hearing/tuning in to?

I understand if you can’t respond but if you do I really appreciate it!  Thanks.  :)

Tien

Excerpt of painting 'Grey Wolf' by Psychic, artist Monica Holy, author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Dear Tien,

Well it certainly sounds like you had quite the OBE (out of body experience)!  I understand how challenging it can be to describe such an event to others who haven’t had a similar experience. Somehow, the depth of the supernatural feeling never seems to get expressed quite the way we wish it could. That’s when the English language with ‘words’ seems somehow cumbersome. It can be very frustrating. You did very well, I can relate to a lot of what you described!

Let me start off, who or what exactly the voices were, I can’t tell you specifically. Perhaps a guide, another spirit, your own higher self, the possibilities are many.   I can however offer information that may lead  you to finding out.  I hope you’ll bare with me.

If you’ve already had similar OBE and Astral Dream experiences, you are likely of a ‘sensitive’ nature. Like most psychics, that means any methods of deep relaxation can increase the likelihood of deeper experiences- you’ll find yourself going further ‘down the rabbit hole’.  This goes hand in hand with something I like to call ‘The Art of Allowing’. However, this is not as easy as it may sound.

I’ve often referred to my ‘back seat driver’, the logical mind that comes along for the ride as a passenger during my lucid dreaming experiences. Finding what makes a good marriage between the art of allowing, and the observer part of the logical mind to enable the experience not to crash to an abrupt halt, can be a tedious balancing act that improves over time with each experience.

Most people have a really tough time ‘letting go’ of the how, what, when, where, why of things.  Hence, I would make a lousy journalist, because most of those things are irrelevant to me during a spiritual experience, because they tend to override the whole concept of ‘being’ in the moment of something.

Having the feeling of being SAFE during your astral travel, will open up and enable you to allow more freely. The more in the moment you are, the more potential you have to take things in, and you’ll pick up on more details each time. However, another key element in all this, is to do this with an open mind, free of EXPECTATIONS.

Many people have had one pivotal experience, which was joyously overwhelming. As soon as they try to REPEAT the experience, retracing over the same steps, disappointment is most often the result. Expectations are in direct conflict with the art of allowing. No two experiences are identical. See the dilemma?

As for the ‘voices’, or communication, I’ve had similar experiences. Again, the logical mind along for the ride is doing it’s dandiest to ‘decipher’ what’s going on, and gets twitter pated when it can’t seem to find ‘the words’ to do so. I’ve often described this type communication as complete thoughts that enter in a nano second, almost streaming in. For now, try to let go of all the ‘what’, and just allow the gist, the emotion, the overview to come through. When I journal these dreams, I often find myself stringing together 5-6 words that on their own, wouldn’t completely relay what I heard or felt. However, together in a string, I can revisit the event, and pick out the prime elements/aspect of each word that is relevant. Together as a whole, I then have the key thought and emotion I felt, that I couldn’t otherwise express.

Setting your INTENTION before going to bed, or meditating, also helps. You’d be surprised what the universe sends you in response. Most of us just aren’t aware enough, to take in the subtle messages that come our way when we’re truly open.

If you are feeling safe in your experiences, you can try the suggestions I’ve offered. Keep a journal, write down whatever comes to mind, WITHOUT questioning the logistics of it. Remember that colors have vibrations, so do emotions. Everything is interconnected.

The more experiences you have, the more you’ll recognize as familiar when you have new ones. As time progresses, your ‘observations’ will become keener, without interrupting the flow of the experience. You’re back seat driver will take more ‘notes’ in silence, then speaking up and interfering. You’ll potentially be in a better place to ask questions such as ‘Are you my spirit guide?’, or ‘Who are you?’. Upon waking, you’re recollection of things will have a broader spectrum. Hopefully, you’ll also have some answers!

There is a wonderful book I’ve recommended for those seeking the nitty gritty on details surrounding OBE’s, and astral travel:  Toltec Dreaming: Don Juan’s Teachings on the Energy Body by Ken Eagle Feather. He offers in depth information on the various states of astral dreaming, and offers suggestions for levels of control while doing so. You may find more answers here that are specific to you.

When I first set out to find out some answers, I was frustrated that none of the ‘formulaic’ approaches available seemed to work for me. Once I let go of that, accepted things to simply unfold, I got the best results.

Remember that we are all unique ‘spirits having the human experience’, hence our results will differ. I wish you safe and happy travels!

Sincerely, the Fringe Dweller

 


‘Astral Triage with a Fringe Dweller’

October 2009

Kinetics Magazine-October 2009 featuring psychic, artist, author Monica HolyOctober’s edition of Kintetics Magazine is featuring an article titled ‘Astral Triage with a Fringe Dweller’ by Monica Holy.

To read this article CLICK HERE

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“I thought there was something very wrong with me, that’s why I hid it.”

'Ask the Fringe Dweller' Paranormal comments and testimonials for psychic, artist Monica Holy, author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'

Submitted on 2009/11/04 at 4:49pm

Hi,

I just wanted to say that I have had similar experiences in my life.  I have always known that I do not sleep at night and travel and do jobs elsewhere.  In the 1970s, while I was “sleeping”, I worked with Light Beings who rescued earthbound people and took them to the Light. I discontinued doing it because in this life I was to be a teacher and I needed to concentrate all my energy in that area.

Since then, I have used incorporation counseling method to do the same work while in trance.  It is not as effective method to help earthbound souls, but it helps.  I have seen so called “dead” people all my life, and like you, I learned at a very early age to keep it quiet.  I also see auras around people and on a few occasions, have given  readings for friends, but usually it wasn’t a good idea.  I was correct in what I saw and said, but I usually lost a friend over it “because it was too weird”, so I quit doing it.

I got no encouragement from my mother to be the “real” me; usually she accused me of lying.  When I was in my 50’s and she was living with me, she admitted she knew what was going on with me because her mother had been clairvoyant.  She said she didn’t want me to be like her mother, because it had caused a lot of friction in her family when growing up.  I could have enjoyed an ally as a child.  I thought there was something very wrong with me, that’s why I hid it. When I was 34 years old I met some people like me.  It made life so much nicer.

I can really relate to your experiences recorded in your book.  Thank you for writing it.  It is so nice to find a “kindred soul.”

Carolyn Poppen

Excerpt of painting 'Grey Wolf' by Psychic, artist Monica Holy, author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Dear Carolyn

I understand when you say you needed to concentrate all your energy to what you were doing in this life as a teacher. It’s utterly exhausting to continually ‘work overtime’. I found saying an Affirmation before sleeping such as ‘I will get all the rest I need tonight’ really helps. In my case when I was over exhausted my Guides would stand ‘guard’ at my bedroom door, redirecting those in need to other ‘Fringe Dwellers’ out there. We are not alone, and we can ask for what we need, a wonderful concept I didn’t discover until a few years ago myself!

Despite our feelings of isolation while growing up, perhaps we can now take consolation by making a difference for others. I feel communication and support without judgment is necessary for people to feel ‘safe’ enough to open up and share their experiences. I understand when you say ‘It made life so much nicer’ when you met others like you. To live one’s life in complete authenticity is very liberating, empowering, and loving.

I’m in a state of gratitude when I hear that this book has brought comfort to someone. Thank you for writing and sharing your experiences.  It was my very isolation growing up that sparked the need to share mine with the Fringe Dweller book.

So to other Fringe Dwellers out there I say… ‘Embrace you Freakdom!’, and as my friend Lynn repeatedly would say, ‘Don’t be afraid to be who you are.’

Sincerely, the Fringe Dweller

 


When the Gift isn’t.

Nicole Chayka is the co-author of the paranormal book 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'I don’t want to sound like I am bitching, moaning, or otherwise kvetching…but I really need to lay down a foundation of honesty here.   Some people think it would be wild to be Monica, to have the ‘quote-unquote’ gifts she has, and I really want to be open to those toying with the notion to be careful what you wish for.  It’s not all fun and games.

Sure it’s cool to go gallivanting around the universe; to astral travel through time and space. Who wouldn’t like to explore or play with consciousness? It’s especially exciting if you can forget your human structure and allow your imagination to take you where it will.

But then there’s the bad stuff.

The stuff we try not to sensationalize or put a big ol’ strobe light on, nonetheless, it exists.  There are times when she is called upon to be a witness.  She can’t intercede or stop a harrowing murder, all she can do is be there for the person before, during and after they cross over, and all without condemning or even judging the murderer.

Could you do that?

I couldn’t.  I’m simply not evolved enough for that.  Sometimes she experiences the death along with them-the physical sensations, the thoughts in their heads, their life long memories.

Could you do that?

I couldn’t. I’m simply not strong enough for that. Sometimes she watches children die, and she has to accept that it was meant to go down this way, for a greater good that only our higher selves knows or understands.

Could you do that?

I couldn’t, and keep my sanity anyway.  Monica admitted that she tinkered on the brink before coming to terms with what was required of her so I say this with the utmost of compassion. Be careful what you wish for.  It’s not all a joy ride out there in the slipstream of consciousness.

But then again, sometimes, it is.

Namaste, Nicole

 


“Why don’t I sense her Spirit around me?”

'Ask the Fringe Dweller' Blog Question for Monica Holy author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'

Submitted on  2009/09/28 at 4:25pm

I lost my baby daughter before birth 14 years ago…..what are possible reasons as to why i don’t feel/sense her around me? (other than her doing things in the afterlife) she contacted me maybe 3 times, then nothing in the years since. I have never seen her spirit, even. thanks!

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Excerpt of painting 'Grey Wolf' by Psychic, artist Monica Holy, author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'

Hi Kim,

I can’t say specifically the reason you haven’t sensed her in years, however I can offer possibilities. When Spirits Cross Over, time is irrelevant…years to us could seem like minutes to them. They also know that they will be reunited with their loved ones on the other side, therefore there is no urgency to frequently check in. They may choose to reincarnate for another earthly experience.

I also have lost a child before birth, and one of the condolences I take from that experience, is knowing I had a ‘Soul Agreement’ with this spirit, that this would be part of my journey, my experience. Although I felt sorrow, I also know that they were greeted on the other side with love.

Many people don’t remember their dreams upon waking, and are unaware of any astral visits…take comfort knowing they exist.

Sincerely, The Fringe Dweller

 


Mars: artwork from Chapter Eight

acrylic on canvas = 3′ x 3′

Artwork 'Mars' by Monica Holy, psychic, artist and author of the paranormal book 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'

MARS

Dream Journal entry:

Wednesday, March 5 2003

I feel myself drifting high above a planet. I let the current of the planet’s orbit draw me closer in a sweeping arc until I am close enough to see what I can only describe as a wondrous city below me. I know that I am looking down on Mars.

The layout of the city is circular. The streets are curved and the buildings are shaped like wedges to fit the layout. Some of the buildings are topped with large domes and smaller silvery nodules. All the buildings emanate from the central space, which I sense was once a gathering place for the inhabitants, but there are no inhabitants visible, for this city has been empty of living creatures for years beyond counting.

I am filled with admiration by the simple functional geometry of the city. It looks as if it has been designed ergonomically: The patterns of streets and structures are meant to encourage the easy flow of movement. I get a sense that the inhabitants moved in a choreography of awareness of each other so serene that they strode without hesitation through these streets.

Nor does the city fight with its surroundings. It fits into the rust-colored landscape with ease and grace. There are no walls at the perimeter. Instead, the city sits in a crater,

which acts as a natural retaining wall. The land at the edge curves upward and flows out into the environment without barriers.

The expanses surrounding the city are barren and empty. Everything is utterly still and silent. I am looking at a ghost town, but there is no sense of abandonment or loss in that understanding. The feelings that are lodged in the architecture of the individual buildings and the city as a whole are of love, peace, knowledge and understanding.

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