Fringe Dweller: an afterlife paramedic

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Submitted on 2010/07/11 at 10:37 am

“War”

Just about every night, I go to war in my dreams. I’m constantly locked in combat with entities night after night. Just last night, I got in a fight with a thing that had the head of a cougar and a human skeleton body. I ended up throwing him out the windowof a skyscraper.

But, these dreams don’t bother me. I look forward to going to bed. It’s really no big deal.

Vincent

Hello Vincent,

I don’t know enough about your circumstances, however I’ll offer the suggestions I can.

Many dreams we have are emotionally based, where we work out our ‘stuff’ from the day’s events. However it’s up to us to learn how to recognize and differentiate what is emotional, and what is ‘something else’. I’ve been experiencing things for so long, I can differentiate in the same way I can tell the difference between Chocolate and Vanilla ice cream.

Many people who have been warriors in previous lives, may continue doing ‘battle’ in the ‘sandbox’ of their dream state. When we are in our ethereal bodies, we can interact with spirit. I’ve been to schools on the other side, both as a student, and as a teacher.

There may be some influences from your waking reality that may carry over into your dream world. I find this helps me identify with the meanings of something without needing the narration of explanation of what’s going on. If you’ve ever seen the TV show Medium ,  the main character Alison Dubois, she sees her prophetic dreams involving bits that she is both familiar with , and those that she isn’t. It’s up to her, to decipher and discern what’s really going on.

My experiences are similar to those depicted in the show. For example, I’m a TV show and movie and comic book geek, so If I see George Clooney in my dreams trying to help someone, I know it’s in reference to Doctor because of a role I identify him with. This is how it works for me , I’ve learned by repetition what all the movie characters and comic book characters mean in my dreams. I take the flavor and the nuances to fill in the blanks of what’s going on. You might take a second look at your dreams from this perspective, to see if any of it fits for you, it may not.

It’s been said that the moles, or birthmarks we have visible on our bodies, is a sign of ‘wounds’ or injury during battles from previous lives. Many people remember doing battle in previous lives.

I myself, since a child always carried my backpack in my left hand, never switching it to my right, no matter how heavy it was. When teased in grade school about the quirk, and why I never switched over to my right to give my left arm a break, I answered without skipping a beat, and having no idea at the time where it came from- ‘That’s my shield arm, I need to keep my right free to hold a sword’. Yes….curious indeed…lol, yet there it was.

Now if you’re doing battle with Dark Energies of some sort, you must be doing all right! It looks like you have the ability to replace your fear with another emotion, thereby the dark energies can’t feed and grow from any fear off you. You also look forward to going to bed, it’s almost like a giant playground you get to go to, so it sounds like you’re doing just fine. I myself love ethereal paint ball, with glowing balls of colored energy emitting from my hands like Spiderman shooting his web. Well, that’s just me…lol.

Enjoy your time in the giant sandbox in your Dream World, and perhaps just set your intention upon going to bed for a safe journey, and put out some protection for yourself that no harm will come to you there.

Thank you for sharing your experience, and I hope this was helpful.

Namaste, Monica

Submitted on 11/07/2010 8:24 AM

“Dream State”

When I’m almost asleep, I see moving scenes of people, places, animals, etc.

Is this anything similar to what you experience?

Can I develop these occurrences into something more as a person would develop a skill?

I look forward to listening to you on Coast to Coast.

Thanks very much,

Joe

Hello Joe,

What you describe is exactly what I see, and yes, I believe you can work on developing these skills.

My skills grew as a result of continuous immersion into nightly experiences. Believe me, growing up I asked for ‘the manual’ every opportunity I could…lol!

I’ve often recommended the book, Toltec Dreaming: Don Juan’s Teachings on the Energy Body by Ken Eagle Feather, because I personally resonated with his experiences and descriptions. I like to offer his perspective and exercises for anyone who is seriously looking to expand their dream journey’s. He goes into great detail to explain the various dream states, and their possible meanings.

I hope you enjoyed the Coast to Coast program, and thank you for listening.

You may also choose to check out other people’s similar queries that are answered on the website page ‘Ask the Fringe Dweller’.

I plan to compile everyone’s Coast to Coast responses in a special page, as the feedback is overwhelming, and a wonderful resource to share.

Thank you for writing in, I hope this was helpful,

Sincerely, the Fringe Dweller

Submitted on 2010/07/11 at 6:09 am

“My Son Passed Away”

Hi Monica,

After my son died, I had a reading looking for closure, comfort, answers. She said my long dead dad was there for my son to guide him over. Great!

But how was my dad there at the scene, at the exact time? Are we being watched over by deceased relatives?

I would love to think my son is working behind the scenes for his surviving sister Death of the young sucks. My bro was 28 when he died.

William

Hello William,

‘Death of the young sucks’ indeed.I believe we are watched over by deceased relatives. My grandmother comes to me infrequently, and it’s always a warm breath of comfort when she does. I cherish those dreams.

Time and the ‘all knowing’ of something can sometimes be challenging for us to wrap our minds around and fully understand. Time on the ‘Other Side’ doesn’t seem to work in quite the same linear fashion as we in the waking reality here perceive it. We tend to see time as a train track, with point A at the start and point B towards the end, or ‘in the future’.

Quantum Mechanics can shed some light and new perspective on this, however it can become more confusing the more you learn…lol.

For example, Sylvia Browne talks about her experience when her father passed, and being Psychic didn’t seem to help her one bit when it came to connecting with her father after he’d passed. When she finally did ‘hear’ from him, what she thought was months, to him had seemed like mere moments.

If you’ve ever experienced a second in time, where you had an overwhelming feeling that you actually ‘got it’…an epiphany if you will, a momentary state of bliss where everything seemed to be connected, make sense, and have order…then you may understand the concept that everything…. everything …is ‘now’. Eckhart Tolle’s books  ‘The Power of Now’ and ‘ A New Earth’ relays this quite nicely.

With this concept of time, now, and connectedness, it offers a possible  explanation of how your father was able to be there for your son to guide him over.

As for your son watching over your daughter, absolutely. We may just not recognize in what ways that might be. We may not be aware of something we don’t put our ‘focus’ on, however that doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist.I can’t imagine the challenges you’ve faced losing your father, brother, and son. My heart goes out to you.

You may choose to check into authors like  Wayne Dyer and  Eckhart Tolle for their perspective on this topic as well.

Thank you for writing in, and I hope this helps,

Sincerely, the Fringe Dweller

Submitted on 2010/07/11 at 4:45 am

“People that Appear in Dreams”

Sometimes in my dreams, I meet people that I have never seen before, yet they seem familiar.  I am wondering if the images of people from the distant past have somehow been implanted in my DNA.

In one dream, I ran into a young man that seemed to be working hard to torment me.  He seemed to be a recognizable example of evil. He also seemed familiar, but he was totally unknown to me in the physical waking world.

In other dreams, I have girl friends that I have never seen before.  They are totally unknown to me in the real world, and yet they pop up in dreams.  Can this be something drawn out of my ancestry?  I am seventy-one years old, and when I was younger rarely dreamed.

It may have a simple explanation, namely, a side effect from medicine.  Maybe my aging brain is starting to make up stories.

However, most of the dreams are quite rational and organized.  They are not jumbled, but do seem to continue on with a single theme.  Not as as
you might expect a dream to unfold.  When I wake up, the feelings associated with the dream linger on.

Do you have any insight into this type of thing?

When I dream, it is often very real and emotional.  As I mentioned,I believe an explanation might have something to do with my genetic blueprint.  It is very difficult to describe the content of my dreams because they take place in unknown locations and are often more feelings that anything else.  The emotions that these dreams elicit are certainly real.

Jerry

Hello Jerry,

I can relate exactly to what you are describing, in reference to meeting people you have never seen before, however they seem familiar. I’ve had countless themed dreams like that. It can be frustrating, because on some level, you know you recognize them.

I like Sylvia Browne’s theory from Other Side and Back: A Psychic’s Guide to Our World and Beyond that we tend to re-incarnate with the same souls, interchanging our blue print to offer each other the opportunity for growth. For example, someone who was your child in a previous lifetime, may now be your spouse, or boss, or friend etc. Gender has nothing to do with it. In one lifetime they may offer us the experience of unconditional love, and in yet another, perhaps conflict.

Consider the concept of the courage it would take for a soul to agree to provide the conflict, or torment in your incarnation this time round. Most people choose to see only what the direct circumstance is as a result in their own life, and not what the other person’s challenges are.

I’m not condoning negative behavior here, just providing a theory of thought. This whole theory certainly leaves much to speculation and debate, however it does provide food for thought. I’ve had dream experiences where even though the ‘image’ of the person is completely different, the ‘essence’ of someone I know in this lifetime is present.

As for side effects from medicine, I’m sure there can be influences. One example, if a side effect is to ‘relax’, then by simply being in that stress free state, it may enable you to sleep better, and enter a lucid dream state.

You may also now be in a different state of awareness from when you were younger. I’m sure you have seen and experienced much in this world.
Perhaps this is why you now dream more. As for your aging brain making up stories, I think that could be true at any age…lol!  Just think of children’s limitless imaginings because they haven’t been told that something isn’t ‘true’, or ‘that’s not possible’.

Your dreams do sound quite linear, consider that a bonus, as many people’s experiences aren’t so ‘organized’. Perhaps keeping a notebook by
your bedside will enable you to jot down all the elements that linger as you awake.

Our dreams can be very emotional, I find in many cases they are more intense in feeling, with the colour, smell, and sounds well beyond things I’ve experienced in the waking reality, certainly different at the very least!

As for locations, curiously enough, I kept dreaming over and over again of a specific geographic region, however, in each case, it was a different time period. Even more curious, I simply ‘knew’ it to be a region I spent each summer with my parents growing up in this lifetime. It’s almost ‘haunted’ me to know something so intimately, yet not able to pinpoint exactly it’s meaning. Somewhat frustrating, so I understand I only need to accept it. Perhaps someday it’s meaning will become clear. I’ve learned that a term given to this phenomenon is ‘Land Memory’. Yes, I’d have to agree, the feelings, and emotions our dreams elicit are certainly real.

I hope this helps, and may all your journey’s in dream time be safe and joyous ones!

Sincerely, the Fringe Dweller

Submitted on 2010/07/09 at 4:34 pm

“Your Artwork”

Hello Monica,

I came across your website for the very first time through A.M. Coast to Coast (George Noory).

I liked what I saw, especially your artwork.
I was moved to tears while reading the story that went with “Love’s Light”. How beautiful this one is.

I have been told by one of my spirit guides that I am a Dreamwalker, but I have never done any Dreamwalking work.
I would like to say how glad I am to have discovered your website.  Keep up the commendable work you do.

Bless you,Sincerely,

Sylvia

Hello Sylvia,

Thank you for your kind words. I’m truly glad you enjoyed the artwork. Expressing my dream life in an art form was the initial purpose before the book was ever thought of.

When I asked the Universe what was it that I was supposed to do with all my diverse talents and experiences, the answer that came back was ‘to get the artwork of your dream life out there to the public, detachment from the outcome. Well that certainly unfolded, as a lot of the focus is currently on the ‘what I do’, and not so much on the artwork itself, however I know things happen for a reason, ‘it’s all good’.

So thank you for sharing that you enjoyed the artwork, and the connection you made to Love’s Light.

The name ‘Dreamwalker’ is coming up more and more now from people writing in. I’m glad people are sharing their stories, it does indeed show how one is not alone in these experiences.

Who knows, perhaps even if you aren’t aware, or remember upon waking, you already work on ‘the Night Shift’.

Thank you for writing in,

Sincerely, the Fringe Dweller

Submitted on 2010/11/05 at 11:46 am

My mother just died after a long illness but was unprepared for her death.

That night I had an awful nightmare that she was terrified and confused and was in the morgue’s freezer with her body.

How can I help her?

Can you help her, or recommend someone like you who can?

Thank you.

Hello There,

First of all, let me say condolences on your Mother’s passing.

My experiences come to me, as in people in distress or lost/traumatized souls find me during my dreams.

I will however, send out intentions and prayers for your Mother.

Most often, people closest to us will reach us through visitations. You, can help your Mother, by setting intentions each nite before going to sleep. Just setting forth your intention, and sending love, can make a difference. You can do this throughout the day in your thoughts as well.

Seeing your Mother in your dream the way you did could also be a result/influenced by your fears and awareness of her ‘unpreparedness’.

It has been my experience, that no one dies alone. Your Mother would have been in the presence of another ‘Fringe Dweller’, or ‘Dream Walker’ as some are called, Angel, Guardian, Loved one or Light Being of some nature.

If you have another dream with her, do your best not to have any associations of fear, and send only Love. Cherish the Visitation. More often than not, just being in a calm presence/energy/environment is all that’s needed for someone to match that energetic frequency, recognize what has transpired, and be ready to ‘move on’ in a loving and accepting manner.

Your Mother has most likely moved on and ‘returned to Love’, the place we all came from. She has the wonderful opportunity to meet with friends and loved ones also passed, go to school, teach….there is so much available on the ‘Other Side’.

Sylvia Browne and John Edward both have insightful books on Loved Ones’ passing, that may shed further light on the subject.

I hope this was helpful.

My heart goes out to you at this time,

Sincerely, the Fringe Dweller

Submitted on 2010/11/01 at 8:04 am
Hi Monica,

I am reading your book and I am amazed!  Thanks for writing it and bringing your experiences into our awareness.

I have also read ‘Invisible Helpers’ written by C.W. Leadbeater in 1915.  A free copy is available on Google Books.  In Chapter 5, page 34, he sort of describes what you do.  I believe that there are so many that help in the in-between.  There is so much yet to be discovered.

I stumbled upon your book in the library and I am so thankful.  Please continue writing.  It helps me to develop on my journey.  You are a gem!

Sincerely,

Erma

Hello Erma,

Thank you for your kind words.

I’m so glad to hear the book is available at the library. The intention behind the Fringe Dweller Book, was to share my experiences, and make it readily available to those seeking out information, and hopefully lessening the isolation and fear often accompanying paranormal experiences.

Thank you for sharing the book ‘Invisible Helpers’. I’ll be looking into it. It’s rather exciting to think someone in 1915 wrote of similar experiences, like a treasure chest I can explore!

I too believe many out there share a broad range of experiences. It’s been wonderful that many people have written in and shared their stories, I’m still working on posting them all.

Sincerely, the Fringe Dweller

Submitted on 2010/10/29 at 10:35 pm

Hello,

Monica I have been trying to understand my son’s experiences about things he sees, like shadow figures with red glowing eyes or people standing by his bed.

He hears voices, some not to good and others he doesn’t understand. He used to dream of traveling to weird dark places to get a person out, but sometimes he travels to beautiful places, where it seems to relax him.

He’s very intuitive and able to say things that tend to happen later now. I think he has a special gift but he is still too afraid to face his experiences. Is there a message for him for his Guides on how he can better deal with this?

I had bought your book Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift for him to read so he can understand why he was going through this. By the way, I really enjoy your book. It has helped me by confirming on what I believe in my life.

Thank you, your friend.

Rebecca

Hello Rebecca,

In my early childhood, I started out with similar experiences “like Shadow Figures with Red Glowing Eyes”.

I don’t know how old your son is, however I will offer the following.

Like attracts like. The emotional environment your son has towards any Astral/OBE experience beforehand, will have direct influence on the experience itself. Fear of the unknown will intensify, cycle and grow. His imagination has the potential to get the better of him. This is common to those new to these type of experiences.

There is a name associated with this type of experience, it’s called ‘Dweller on the Threshold’ by author Robert Bruce.  His book   Astral Dynamics: A New Approach to Out-Of-Body Experiences is a wealth of information on the Scientific/psychology of astral experiences. I resonate with much of what he describes, as it mirrors many of my experiences.

Here is the typical scenario, for Astral traveling ‘newbies’. A shadowy, menacing humanoid shape, usually all featureless black with burning red eyes. Mine was large, grey, and distinctly furry, but also with burning red eyes. For some people, it may remain motionless, or it may take steps forward and make threatening gestures. In some cases it will be silent, or breathe heavily and loudly. It may snarl, giggle, laugh, call you by name or even threaten you with doom and gloom.

Robert attests that this type of ‘Dweller Monster’ never attacks or harms an Astral Projector. I know for myself (as a child during these experiences), that if I let my fear get the better of me, so did my personal ‘Monster’. Once I confronted and ordered him away, he disappeared.

Now, in my current experiences, I know and understand how vital it is to be a calm, and dispassionate observer of events. I liken it to the movie The Matrix, and the character Neo. As long as you are in control of your emotional awareness, you have the ability to be in the emotional control of your astral experiences. Again, like attracts like.

The more positive experiences your son has, the less levels of fear he will have and associate.

Again, I don’t know how old your son is. I highly encourage an open line of communication. I remember the best solace I had at an early age, was hearing the words ‘I believe you, and I support you’ from my closest high school friend. I then felt open to speak freely in a safe and supportive environment. I remembered how isolated I had felt, and now do my best to remain open and approachable to my own son, who is coming forward with his experiences.

Depending how old your son is, he or you may be able to check out further resources through Don Miguel Ruiz’s  The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom, A Toltec Wisdom Book , and Ken Eagle Feather’s Toltec Dreaming: Don Juan’s Teachings on the Energy Body for further control of astral experiences, and the a fore mentioned Astral Dynamics by Robert Bruce for the ‘how’ and ‘what’ of things.

Something to consider, is no one can take away, or talk someone out of their experience, it’s their experience. Take what resonates with you (or your son), and leave the rest behind. For example,  I have similar, and dissimilar experiences from Sylvia Browne. You, and your son, will know what feels right.

Another thing to remember, is that nothing can harm you while you are out of your body. Your ethereal ‘dream body’ is an energetic double, and therefore virtually invulnerable. It’s the understanding, and ‘knowing’ of that, which will enable positive experiences.

I’m glad you enjoyed the book, and thank you for your kind words.

I hope the book and above information will help you and your son.

May all your experiences be joyous ones,

Sincerely, the Fringe Dweller

Submitted on 2010/06/12 at 12:43 am

Hey Monica,

Love your web site.

I have found all kinds of wonderful info on how to have an OBE (Out of Body Experience).

However, now that I have the info and am ready  to try it, I’m wondering about any dangers that may be waiting just outside my physical body. I’ve never even attempted this before and know nothing outside of what I’ve read online.

Any helpful hints you have would be greatly appreciated.

Barbara

Hello Barbara,

If you haven’t already read these, I’d like to recommend two books. One is Toltec Dreaming: Don Juan’s Teachings on the Energy Body by Ken Eagle Feather. The author goes into great detail of the various states of dreaming, including “creating a conscious dreaming body, often referred to as an out-of-body experience.”

The second is  Astral Dynamics: A New Approach to Out-Of-Body Experiences by Robert Bruce. The author goes into detail about the various astral states and planned out of body experiences, including bi-location.

Both books offer suggested do’s and don’ts for Astral Travel.

I can offer a few suggestions for Psychic Protection  from my own experiences:

Learn to Ground yourself before embarking on any astral journey.

Protect yourself via positive intention and mantras. You can set boundaries by giving yourself cues to ‘come back safely’ if you find yourself in an uncomfortable experience.

Know that there is a connection between your physical body, and your astral body. This is referred to as a ‘Silver Cord’ that connects the two. Think of it as a safety bungee cord. Just being aware of its existence, may ease your trepidation about astral travel.

It’s important to be in a positive state of being, stress free, to allow the experience to unfold into a pleasurable one. Fear and stress will only hinder and challenge any experience. If you subconsciously tell yourself there may be dangers, you’ve already created that layer of resistance. If this is the case, you may not be ready for the experience.

It’s tough, however letting go of any preconceived ideas is helpful. Do your best not to project any expectations, and allow the journey to proceed without judgment. I’ve found as soon as you stop being simply the observer of things, the experience tends to slide sideways into unpredictable nonsense before grinding to a sudden halt.

Don’t be hard on yourself, as in disappointment if nothing happens. Let it go, and try a nightly routine of intention before sleep time. It may be months before anything occurs, or it may be that very first time…do your best to simply allow what is.

If you hear or see a cue that it’s time to return to your body, act on it. I’ve often heard a voice telling my ‘it’s time to go back now’, as if from an ethereal guardian. Its comforting to know they exist. I’ve noticed the longer I do stay ‘away’, the rougher the re-entry can be…lol. Don’t be alarmed, it sometimes feels like a bumpy return landing on an airport runway!

You may want to keep a Dream Journal by your bedside, to jot down initial impressions as you return.

I hope this helps, and may all your astral journeys be joyful and rewarding.

Sincerely, the Fringe Dweller