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Monica enjoys answering your questions. Although it is impossible to answer everyone, she will personally answer general questions, or those of a similar theme, and post them here on this page. If you have a question, comment, or thought  for the ‘Ask the Fringe Dweller’ page, please fill out the contact form below.

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“Recovering Catholic”

Coast to Coast Radio aftershow paranormal comment for Monica Holy, psychic, artist and author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Submitted on 2010/07/21 at 6:54 am

“Coast to Coast Broadcast”

Monica,

I listened to you on Coast to Coast last night and I find your words of assisting transitioning souls fascinating and self-rewarding.

In this world of deceit where truth is as rare as a 5 leaf clover I don’t know who to believe or trust anymore. Most people these days can weave awesome and believable stories with such fantasy, hope and flare, and all for the almighty dollar.

As a people we are starving for some semblance of Truth and Guidance if not in this world then in the next, what we are given is “Reality” TV and
Politicians with Emmy award winning lies.

I trust you are a genuine breath of fresh air, at the very least I am glad that your dream state brings satisfaction to you.

I would like to hear from you.

Sincerely,
Recovering Catholic,
Ron

Excerpt of painting 'Grey Wolf' by Psychic, artist Monica Holy, author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Hello Ron,

Thank you for the kind words, and I love your sign off of ‘Recovering Catholic’… :).

When asked, I  usually mention that I was raised Catholic, but I don’t acknowledge a specific denomination now. I’ve had so many experiences in my life. Some contradict the teachings I grew up with. Others embrace elements of other religions. I tend to view ‘Religion’ as a specific ‘structure’. The beliefs and faith I have of ‘God’ revolve more around the experiences I’ve been blessed to be part of.

Once I was so afraid to speak my truth about my experiences, however I’ve grown to see how the isolation of that virtually suffocated who I was. I feel like I have a second lease on life now that I can speak openly, and live in the authenticity of who I am.

When the idea of creating a book came about, my co-author and I felt it was important for people in similar circumstances to resonate with the truth about their own life, and have the courage to ‘Come out of the Psychic Closet’, even if just to family and close friends. It can be a burden to keep it locked up.

I hope the opportunity to share my experiences encourages people to start a dialogue about their own. If it makes a difference in someone’s life,
I’m grateful.

I think the more comfortable people are with themselves, the more truth in others they are able to recognize. There is a resonance with something that rings true for them.

However it certainly is getting more challenging to discern the truth with what we are given through Television and media. Perhaps we’ll have
to become more introspective, and listen with our heart more.

I’ve noticed the more heart centered I become, the more wondrous the experiences are in the ‘sandbox’ of the Other Side (and the waking
reality too).

The challenge to living a heart centered life, is to maintain the discernment of things that go against your authenticity, and recognize them in time.

Thank you for your kind words, and I’m glad you enjoyed the Coast to Coast program.

Sincerely, the Fringe Dweller

 


“Your Soul Retrieval Work is Great”

Coast to Coast Radio aftershow paranormal comment for Monica Holy, psychic, artist and author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Submitted on 2010/07/12 at 5:05 am

“What a Lovely Job You Do”

Hello,

I came across your link by chance?? or by design we never know, with a little free will I believe it’s all written in stone, the many paths of the spirit.

I know many get confused between worlds, it’s a shock to many many throughout their life who do not believe because of religion and brainwashing, all waking now), what a strange reality we chose to take part in so many dreams within dramas.

Anyway, your Soul Retrieval work is great. I’ve only heard of one other, she was a Shaman, but there must be many doing this.

I was always a healer but took it up to help suffering in mind body spirit. The mind heals the life force, not the healer (which I do free ), only the soul can heal itself, we can act as a link, but that’s all. The person’s soul as all it needs to carry itself through life. If we do healing, it’s to heal the self and to be of service.

Anyway, lovely person what a good job you do…

Love all things, all things will love you.

Take care on your journey on love,

Paul, a traveler…

Excerpt of painting 'Grey Wolf' by Psychic, artist Monica Holy, author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Hello Paul,

Well you certainly are another Traveler who understands the integration of fate, free will, and ’co-incidence’ .

I concur with much of what you so beautifully wrote, especially the part ‘to be of service’.

I put this book out there with ‘detachment from the outcome’ for the purpose of sharing my experiences, getting the information out there, and encouraging other to come out of the psychic closet themselves, and in turn share with their family and peers. Perhaps this will help with the feelings of isolation and fear people associate with these experiences.

I had initial trepidation with what form the information might take on, not wishing it to become a circus, but one that remained true to my authenticity, and honored the higher place it flowed from.

Then someone pointed out, that we all ‘get it’, we have a shift, with information coming in many forms. If there ever was a Saturday morning cartoon about it, but someone had a ‘Shift’ in their awareness as a result of watching, than is that so bad? I suppose in that perspective it’s quite alright…lol.

Thank you for writing in your perspective,

My best to you fellow traveler, stay safe and well!

Namaste, Monica

 


“I Cross People Over In My Dreams Just Like You”

Coast to Coast Radio aftershow paranormal comment for Monica Holy, psychic, artist and author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Submitted on 2010/07/11 at 9:49 pm

“Me too!”

I cross people over in my dreams just like you. I have been doing it for years.. I never knew it had a name. I also dream before people die. I am an RN in my day job and I cross people over in my sleep. It comes in spurts. Sometimes I cross people over every night and sometimes a month or two goes by and I don’t cross anyone over .. but then i start all over again.. i told many people i do this and it seemed as if i was the only one ..

I have never heard of anyone doing it. Thank heaven you came on Coast to Coast. I wake up exhausted sometimes because I cross all these people over. I always told my mother I dream of crossing people over who I don’t know- kids,old and young people, people from other countries…

Do you have any suggestions for me to develop my talent? My grandmother was very psychic and would have out of body experience and I would wake up and see her coming over to see us. Then she would confirm I saw her… awesome !!

Thank heaven I am not crazy !!!

Bethany

Excerpt of painting 'Grey Wolf' by Psychic, artist Monica Holy, author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Hello Bethany,

What a courageous challenge you took on, to be an RN by day, and one by night as well! You are by no means the only one, so many people have responded and written in to say they do it too, and by names such as Dreamwalkers.

I understand you’re feeling of waking up exhausted. People who have not had these experiences may not recognize how emotionally draining it truly is to always be ‘present’ for someone. You do it both day and night, so you’ll need to implement a few intentions so you don’t find yourself in a place of utter exhaustion that leads to ill health both physical and mental.

Set your intention before going to bed that you’ll get all the rest you need. As I mentioned on the Coast to Coast program, I found out I actually had ethereal caregivers that watched over me. Ever since implementing that intention I haven’t had any major issues beyond the normal stress of waking life regime. Also set your intention to have a safe journey.

I love the story of your psychic grandmother astral traveling to you. The fact that you had her to confirm the experience is indeed a gift in itself. So many people have never had a validation of any kind.

Generally, I encourage people to allow the experience, be the observer as much as possible. Allow the images to unfold, and do your best to gather the nuances, the feelings, the flavor of what’s going on. Many times this will yield more answers than trying to hear messages. Our ears tend to work better in the waking reality, and we can expand our other senses to tell us what’s happening in our dream world. Listen to your heart, that tends to be a good compass as well.

As for expanding your talents in Dream Travel, I often recommend the book Toltec Dreaming: Don Juan’s Teachings on the Energy Body who delves into detail of the many levels of dreaming, and how to expand on each one. This may offer you detailed insight into expanding your Gifts.

I don’t think you’re crazy, at least no more than the rest of us who lead this sort of dual life…lol.

Sincerely, bless you for taking on the dual role of caregiver in both waking and dream realities. I can’t even imagine the emotional stress and
challenges that you face.

May all your dream travels be safe and rewarding, and know you are not alone in this :)

Namaste, Monica

 


“Thank You for Making Me Feel Not so Crazy”

Coast to Coast Radio aftershow paranormal comment for Monica Holy, psychic, artist and author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Submitted on 2010/07/11 at 9:28 pm

“Thank you for making me feel not so crazy”

Won’t go deeply here, but thank you for making me feel not so crazy about the fact that I live in both worlds at times.

I wake up and sometimes I’m in both my dream and reality, at the same time.  I try to explain it to some people whom I trust, but they still just look at me like, “uh huh”.

I interact in my dreams with people and it’s more real than reality.  I think you know what I mean.

Anyway, I can’t wait to hear you on Coast to Coast tonight and I’ll be getting your book.

Take care, Dave

Excerpt of painting 'Grey Wolf' by Psychic, artist Monica Holy, author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Hello Dave,

Welcome to the ‘two worlds’ Dave, you are by no way alone!

So many people have responded with similar stories, so thank you for sharing yours. This was the intention behind putting myself out there, to tell of my experiences, and by doing so encouraging others out there that they aren’t alone in their paranormal events.

I understand well that look in friends’ eyes. There’s that look of ‘uh huh’ on the outside, but on the inside fear of the unknown, and simply thinking it all incredulous because they perhaps have never encountered anything you feel is so real.

‘More real than reality’ is something I can definitely relate to…well put!

Thank you for writing in, I hope you enjoy the Coast to Coast program, and maybe now you’ll feel even less isolated.

I’m in the process of compiling all the responses people have written in, so people can read even further.

Namaste, Monica

 


“So I’m Not Alone in Living in Two Realities”

Coast to Coast Radio aftershow paranormal comment for Monica Holy, psychic, artist and author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Submitted on 2010/07/11 at 10:34 am

“Coast to Coast”

Welcome (hug)… so i’m not alone in living in two ‘real’ realities…

I really enjoyed your interview… and btw… you were spot on with destiny and free will…

Spirit offered me your job too, but i decided against it…

Its funny how something so obvious to me and you is so overlooked by humanity… facinating…

I’ll tell you about demons if you like.

Next book?

Steven

Excerpt of painting 'Grey Wolf' by Psychic, artist Monica Holy, author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Hello Steven,

You are most definitely not alone, and judging from the overwhelming responses pouring in after Coast to Coast far from it :)

I’m truly grateful to have the opportunity to share my experiences. By encouraging others to do so with their friends and family the awareness will grow, and hopefully remove some of the fears and stigma surrounding their experiences.

Thank you for telling me you understood what I was saying about Destiny and Free Will. It can be a huge topic that yields much discussion. Many people aren’t ready to hear of their own accountability in circumstances, and choose the cycle of victim-hood of circumstance. To go even further to offer the idea that we attract or create our circumstances might have put things over the edge. :)

I always find radio a challenge, especially with such a broad subject.  I find many bits have the potential of falling through the cracks, and leave a lot to interpretation.I was beginning to have doubt, and that what I was trying to get across was becoming grossly misunderstood. Thank you again for writing and letting me know you got it. Whewwww!… :)

Too funny, you say you had decided against the ‘Job’ of being a Fringe Dweller. Growing up I never knew there was a choice, and when I finally heard Sylvia Browne offer that there was a choice, well,…..you could have knocked me over with a feather! I started to chuckle at my own situation, but realized too, that for me, it was the right thing.

There’s no next book on the horizon yet,  this was a work of the heart, and we wanted others to feel less isolated in their experiences
than I had in mine. It’s all good.

However, being an artist, I’ve decided to branch out, and return to my love of comic/graphic novel art. I plan to create storyboards of my dream experiences, and post them on the website.

Feel free to share your stories about demons. It seems to be a surprise to people when I mention I have indeed encountered Dark Energies. It
seems to be a taboo subject. However, it doesn’t take away the fact that many of us have the experiences of them!

Remember to protect yourself, and have safe journeys!

Thank you for open sincerity, It’s been wonderful connecting with people this way.

Namaste, Monica

 


“I Go to War In My Dreams”

Coast to Coast Radio aftershow paranormal question for Monica Holy, psychic, artist and author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Coast to Coast Radio with host Ian Punnet in a paranormal discussion with psychic, artist Monica Holy, author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Submitted on 2010/07/11 at 10:37 am

“War”

Just about every night, I go to war in my dreams. I’m constantly locked in combat with entities night after night. Just last night, I got in a fight with a thing that had the head of a cougar and a human skeleton body. I ended up throwing him out the windowof a skyscraper.

But, these dreams don’t bother me. I look forward to going to bed. It’s really no big deal.

Vincent

Excerpt of painting 'Grey Wolf' by Psychic, artist Monica Holy, author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Hello Vincent,

I don’t know enough about your circumstances, however I’ll offer the suggestions I can.

Many dreams we have are emotionally based, where we work out our ‘stuff’ from the day’s events. However it’s up to us to learn how to recognize and differentiate what is emotional, and what is ‘something else’. I’ve been experiencing things for so long, I can differentiate in the same way I can tell the difference between Chocolate and Vanilla ice cream.

Many people who have been warriors in previous lives, may continue doing ‘battle’ in the ‘sandbox’ of their dream state. When we are in our ethereal bodies, we can interact with spirit. I’ve been to schools on the other side, both as a student, and as a teacher.

There may be some influences from your waking reality that may carry over into your dream world. I find this helps me identify with the meanings of something without needing the narration of explanation of what’s going on. If you’ve ever seen the TV show Medium ,  the main character Alison Dubois, she sees her prophetic dreams involving bits that she is both familiar with , and those that she isn’t. It’s up to her, to decipher and discern what’s really going on.

My experiences are similar to those depicted in the show. For example, I’m a TV show and movie and comic book geek, so If I see George Clooney in my dreams trying to help someone, I know it’s in reference to Doctor because of a role I identify him with. This is how it works for me , I’ve learned by repetition what all the movie characters and comic book characters mean in my dreams. I take the flavor and the nuances to fill in the blanks of what’s going on. You might take a second look at your dreams from this perspective, to see if any of it fits for you, it may not.

It’s been said that the moles, or birthmarks we have visible on our bodies, is a sign of ‘wounds’ or injury during battles from previous lives. Many people remember doing battle in previous lives.

I myself, since a child always carried my backpack in my left hand, never switching it to my right, no matter how heavy it was. When teased in grade school about the quirk, and why I never switched over to my right to give my left arm a break, I answered without skipping a beat, and having no idea at the time where it came from- ‘That’s my shield arm, I need to keep my right free to hold a sword’. Yes….curious indeed…lol, yet there it was.

Now if you’re doing battle with Dark Energies of some sort, you must be doing all right! It looks like you have the ability to replace your fear with another emotion, thereby the dark energies can’t feed and grow from any fear off you. You also look forward to going to bed, it’s almost like a giant playground you get to go to, so it sounds like you’re doing just fine. I myself love ethereal paint ball, with glowing balls of colored energy emitting from my hands like Spiderman shooting his web. Well, that’s just me…lol.

Enjoy your time in the giant sandbox in your Dream World, and perhaps just set your intention upon going to bed for a safe journey, and put out some protection for yourself that no harm will come to you there.

Thank you for sharing your experience, and I hope this was helpful.

Namaste, Monica

 


“Can I Develop My ‘Dream State’ Occurances?”

Coast to Coast Radio aftershow paranormal question for Monica Holy, psychic, artist and author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Coast to Coast Radio with host Ian Punnet in a paranormal discussion with psychic, artist Monica Holy, author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Submitted on 11/07/2010 8:24 AM

“Dream State”

When I’m almost asleep, I see moving scenes of people, places, animals, etc.

Is this anything similar to what you experience?

Can I develop these occurrences into something more as a person would develop a skill?

I look forward to listening to you on Coast to Coast.

Thanks very much,

Joe

Excerpt of painting 'Grey Wolf' by Psychic, artist Monica Holy, author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Hello Joe,

What you describe is exactly what I see, and yes, I believe you can work on developing these skills.

My skills grew as a result of continuous immersion into nightly experiences. Believe me, growing up I asked for ‘the manual’ every opportunity I could…lol!

I’ve often recommended the book, Toltec Dreaming: Don Juan’s Teachings on the Energy Body by Ken Eagle Feather, because I personally resonated with his experiences and descriptions. I like to offer his perspective and exercises for anyone who is seriously looking to expand their dream journey’s. He goes into great detail to explain the various dream states, and their possible meanings.

I hope you enjoyed the Coast to Coast program, and thank you for listening.

You may also choose to check out other people’s similar queries that are answered on the website page Ask the Fringe Dweller.

I plan to compile everyone’s Coast to Coast responses in a special page, as the feedback is overwhelming, and a wonderful resource to share.

Thank you for writing in, I hope this was helpful,

Sincerely, the Fringe Dweller

 


“My Son Passed Away”

Coast to Coast Radio aftershow paranormal question for Monica Holy, psychic, artist and author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Coast to Coast Radio with host Ian Punnet in a paranormal discussion with psychic, artist Monica Holy, author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Submitted on 2010/07/11 at 6:09 am

“My Son Passed Away”

Hi Monica,

After my son died, I had a reading looking for closure, comfort, answers. She said my long dead dad was there for my son to guide him over. Great!

But how was my dad there at the scene, at the exact time? Are we being watched over by deceased relatives?

I would love to think my son is working behind the scenes for his surviving sister Death of the young sucks. My bro was 28 when he died.

William

Excerpt of painting 'Grey Wolf' by Psychic, artist Monica Holy, author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Hello William,

Death of the young sucks’ indeed.I believe we are watched over by deceased relatives. My grandmother comes to me infrequently, and it’s always a warm breath of comfort when she does. I cherish those dreams.

Time and the ‘all knowing’ of something can sometimes be challenging for us to wrap our minds around and fully understand. Time on the ‘Other Side’ doesn’t seem to work in quite the same linear fashion as we in the waking reality here perceive it. We tend to see time as a train track, with point A at the start and point B towards the end, or ‘in the future’.

Quantum Mechanics can shed some light and new perspective on this, however it can become more confusing the more you learn…lol.

For example, Sylvia Browne talks about her experience when her father passed, and being Psychic didn’t seem to help her one bit when it came to connecting with her father after he’d passed. When she finally did ‘hear’ from him, what she thought was months, to him had seemed like mere moments.

If you’ve ever experienced a second in time, where you had an overwhelming feeling that you actually ‘got it’…an epiphany if you will, a momentary state of bliss where everything seemed to be connected, make sense, and have order…then you may understand the concept that everything…. everything …is ‘now’. Eckhart Tolle’s books  ‘The Power of Now’ and ‘ A New Earth’ relays this quite nicely.

With this concept of time, now, and connectedness, it offers a possible  explanation of how your father was able to be there for your son to guide him over.

As for your son watching over your daughter, absolutely. We may just not recognize in what ways that might be. We may not be aware of something we don’t put our ‘focus’ on, however that doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist.I can’t imagine the challenges you’ve faced losing your father, brother, and son. My heart goes out to you.

You may choose to check into authors like  Wayne Dyer and  Eckhart Tolle for their perspective on this topic as well.

Thank you for writing in, and I hope this helps,

Sincerely, the Fringe Dweller

 


“People That Appear in Dreams”

Coast to Coast Radio aftershow paranormal question for Monica Holy, psychic, artist and author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Coast to Coast Radio with host Ian Punnet in a paranormal discussion with psychic, artist Monica Holy, author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Submitted on 2010/07/11 at 4:45 am

“People that Appear in Dreams”

Sometimes in my dreams, I meet people that I have never seen before, yet they seem familiar.  I am wondering if the images of people from the distant past have somehow been implanted in my DNA.

In one dream, I ran into a young man that seemed to be working hard to torment me.  He seemed to be a recognizable example of evil. He also seemed familiar, but he was totally unknown to me in the physical waking world.

In other dreams, I have girl friends that I have never seen before.  They are totally unknown to me in the real world, and yet they pop up in dreams.  Can this be something drawn out of my ancestry?  I am seventy-one years old, and when I was younger rarely dreamed.

It may have a simple explanation, namely, a side effect from medicine.  Maybe my aging brain is starting to make up stories.

However, most of the dreams are quite rational and organized.  They are not jumbled, but do seem to continue on with a single theme.  Not as as
you might expect a dream to unfold.  When I wake up, the feelings associated with the dream linger on.

Do you have any insight into this type of thing?

When I dream, it is often very real and emotional.  As I mentioned,I believe an explanation might have something to do with my genetic blueprint.  It is very difficult to describe the content of my dreams because they take place in unknown locations and are often more feelings that anything else.  The emotions that these dreams elicit are certainly real.

Jerry

Excerpt of painting 'Grey Wolf' by Psychic, artist Monica Holy, author of 'Fringe Dweller on the Night Shift'Hello Jerry,

I can relate exactly to what you are describing, in reference to meeting people you have never seen before, however they seem familiar. I’ve had countless themed dreams like that. It can be frustrating, because on some level, you know you recognize them.

I like Sylvia Browne’s theory from Other Side and Back: A Psychic’s Guide to Our World and Beyond that we tend to re-incarnate with the same souls, interchanging our blue print to offer each other the opportunity for growth. For example, someone who was your child in a previous lifetime, may now be your spouse, or boss, or friend etc. Gender has nothing to do with it. In one lifetime they may offer us the experience of unconditional love, and in yet another, perhaps conflict.

Consider the concept of the courage it would take for a soul to agree to provide the conflict, or torment in your incarnation this time round. Most people choose to see only what the direct circumstance is as a result in their own life, and not what the other person’s challenges are.

I’m not condoning negative behavior here, just providing a theory of thought. This whole theory certainly leaves much to speculation and debate, however it does provide food for thought. I’ve had dream experiences where even though the ‘image’ of the person is completely different, the ‘essence’ of someone I know in this lifetime is present.

As for side effects from medicine, I’m sure there can be influences. One example, if a side effect is to ‘relax’, then by simply being in that stress free state, it may enable you to sleep better, and enter a lucid dream state.

You may also now be in a different state of awareness from when you were younger. I’m sure you have seen and experienced much in this world.
Perhaps this is why you now dream more. As for your aging brain making up stories, I think that could be true at any age…lol!  Just think of children’s limitless imaginings because they haven’t been told that something isn’t ‘true’, or ‘that’s not possible’.

Your dreams do sound quite linear, consider that a bonus, as many people’s experiences aren’t so ‘organized’. Perhaps keeping a notebook by
your bedside will enable you to jot down all the elements that linger as you awake.

Our dreams can be very emotional, I find in many cases they are more intense in feeling, with the colour, smell, and sounds well beyond things I’ve experienced in the waking reality, certainly different at the very least!

As for locations, curiously enough, I kept dreaming over and over again of a specific geographic region, however, in each case, it was a different time period. Even more curious, I simply ‘knew’ it to be a region I spent each summer with my parents growing up in this lifetime. It’s almost ‘haunted’ me to know something so intimately, yet not able to pinpoint exactly it’s meaning. Somewhat frustrating, so I understand I only need to accept it. Perhaps someday it’s meaning will become clear. I’ve learned that a term given to this phenomenon is Land Memory’. Yes, I’d have to agree, the feelings, and emotions our dreams elicit are certainly real.

I hope this helps, and may all your journey’s in dream time be safe and joyous ones!

Sincerely, the Fringe Dweller

 


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